confused...is this normal?
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| Sat, 09-17-2005 - 8:38pm |
Hey ya'll,
I'm new to this message board so hello. I was just wondering my ex boyfriend works with me and broke up with me around about 7 months ago after a 1 and 1/2 month relationship. It was sweet and nice but he ended it because he couldn't commit and didn't want to string me along. That was fine and the break up was amicable because I just started uni and he was interferring with me settling in. I know that the break up was needed and since then there have been many ups and downs. Of late i realised i didn't need him to validate me and that we were never getting back together cause he really didn't want it and no matter what I did I can never get him back and I was fine and really happy with being single.
I thought i was getting better and starting to enjoy life more but yesterday night was the first night that i went out with him and a small group of friends and we were forced to interact with each other. Normally we avoid mutual parties and last night it was really awkward. Althought we've started talking to each other like friends its still brings up good memories when we were together and it was just really confronting and this morning i woke up feeling horrible and started crying cause i missed what we had. He acts different now too cause we were never friends before and he's just rudier which i guess is expected.
I know he doesn't want it back and I know that its for the best but yet i'm still stuck in that awkward place of liking him and even though I have moved on some part of me hasn't caught up and I know the keep busy get your mind off him thing but I've done that yet its just these times when we are thrown together at work or at a mutual friends party that it just brings up these feelings. I don't think he feels them either but yeah...I know what I'm saying in a round about manner is how do I fully 100% move on? I have moved on by going out with friends being okay with the break up, but when we are forced to confront a situation where we are together its just brings up things and feelings thus I'm not 100% over him...I want to know is this normal?

Welcome :)
I would have to say that yes, what you are feeling is normal.