Confusing Message from Ex
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| Wed, 05-03-2006 - 5:56pm |
Hello, everyone! This is my very first post and I wish I came here at the start of my break up, but I am glad to have found these boards nonetheless :)
Background:
Dated this guy two years, one of which was long distance because he graduated before I did. It was rough and we broke up. He started dating someone else but it's not very serious (if they are even still together) and I moved here. She was in his circle of friends so he obviously had to be very mindful or everyone would hate him. I told him I didn't want to be with someone that didn't want to be with me and although I was hurting during this break up, I understood and accepted it. We've been in fairly regular contact with each other since we have many mutual friends.
As of the past two months, he has become very agitated with me if I didn't do exactly as he said, but I didn't think it was appropriate for us to hang out if he had a gf, even if it was a casual relationship they had. I also didn't think it was fair to me to deal with it. So basically when I moved here three months ago, I changed my cell number and I told him I didnt want to give it to him because I wasn't 100% over him and I didn't want to end up waiting around for his calls. I also didn't want to be led on and I was vulnerable since I had just moved here.
So the main form of contact was email and instant messenger unless our friends were hanging out and we saw each other. I had always been on instant messenger as was he pretty much, but 6 weeks ago after a major fight on the phone I just stopped going online. Ive gone on maybe twice or so a week the past two weeks, but thats it. Two weeks ago I sent him a text that said I thought I saw him at Starbucks where we worked, which wasn't really true, but I didnt know how else to talk to him and I was just stupid. BTW, we work in the same building. He hasn't contactwed me but 6 days ago he put up an away message just for me to see that said, "Thought I saw you last week, too. Maybe next time you could be normal and say hi. Hope all's well. Ciao"
Ok so my questions are:
1. Why is he so agitated? I'm really not doing anythting to provoke it, he knows I have always adored him, and I told him I'd give him my number when I felt like there was more trust. I never play games and I cant even believe I texted him that I thought I saw him at Starbucks, but oh well.
2. What do you all think of that message he left for me on instant messenger? Doesn't it seem kind of bitter? He didn't reply to the text I sent him, but I sent it from instant messenger and signed off within 15 minutes, so he may have been busy or whatever.
Thanks, everyone! Any and all advice, opinions, etc are very welome!
Edited 5/3/2006 6:35 pm ET by hangingloose672

::Two weeks ago I sent him a text that said I thought I saw him at Starbucks where we worked, which wasn't really true, but I didnt know how else to talk to him and I was just stupid.
What did you hope to gain?
::1. Why is he so agitated?
2. What do you all think of that message he left for me on instant messenger?
My response to both these questions is 'who cares?' I mean if you don't want to be strung along, he wants to hang out, but is dating others, he's agitated, there is nothing to be gained by going through the mental process to try to figure this all out. I know, having an answer would be nice, but it really doesn't change the situation.
My best to you on your healing path. Maybe someone here will speculate with you.
Carrie