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| Thu, 03-23-2006 - 11:56am |
My ex sent me an email this morning. But it is only to ask if I've seen his jacket at my house. Kind of a let-down. I think I DO have his jacket. But I don't want to see him. And I don't want to be rude. What should I do?

Tell him you do and you'll leave it on your front porch. Or drop it on his front porch without even contacting him. Or...even better...do you have a mutual friend you could pass it through? It would be best if you could do it without having to reply to him.
Steph
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It got a little more complicated. I didn't respond to his email and he wrote again and said "Yes, this is a thinly-veiled attempt to see you and talk to you."
I wish he'd said that from the start. But I'm afraid if we talk it'll just hurt more. I want him to want me back, but for me to go back he has to be willing to commit.
ARE YOU SURE YOU DONT WANT TO SEE HIM?
OKAY THEN LET YOUR FRIEND OR SOMEONE TO GIVE IT TO HIM!
Did he break up with you, or did you break up with him? I apologize, I can't immediately remember the details of your situation.
Sheri
Ok, I went back and found your first post.
I think the best thing for you to do is send him an email clearly stating that talking to him is too painful for you right now and you need him to not contact you so you can heal and move on. The only reason he should contact you is if he is 100% ready to commit to marrying you and willing to go with you to couples counseling (I personally would need the latter in order to feel "safe" in allowing him another chance; you may or may not need that).
As far as his jacket, I'd either mail it to him or figure out if there's a place where he can pick it up without you having to see him.
Sheri