Coping with seeing my ex every day
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| Wed, 11-15-2006 - 3:55pm |
Hello,
I am looking for some advice on my break-up that happened three months ago. I go to graduate school with my ex and we have nearly every class together. We have many of the same friends so I find it difficult if not impossible to avoid him. As a result, we have had to become friends even though I know that this is prolonging my healing. He has been adamant about remaining friends even though the break-up was entirely his doing. Honestly, I would like to have a clean and total break from him; our mutual friendships as well as the small community in which we go to school make that tough to do.
I have made an effort to be polite to him but keep him at arm's length for my own sanity. However, I find this painful, too, and occassionally lapse into having coffee or lunch with him. Has anyone else ever been in this sticky situation and if so, do you have any advice on moving on even though the ex is constantly present? I am so appreciative of any advice!!

::He has been adamant about remaining friends even though the break-up was entirely his doing.
What so he doesn't feel about about breaking up with you? He's not the bad guy? Geez. You don't have to 'be friends' with him. But that means it all falls on you - you have to be the one to set boundaries, you have to enforce them, and you have to be the strong one. You will have to put your needs first and make it happen.
Good luck to you!
Carrie