Could you REALLY go back?
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Could you REALLY go back?
| Wed, 08-11-2004 - 5:28pm |
Hypothetically speaking, say your ex- sincerely regrets the breakup, confronts their issues, and really wants to work at making it better the 2nd time around.
Could u get back with your ex- AFTER you've already told your friends and family that you two were now apart? AFTER you've cried on their shoulders? AFTER they've given their opinions, etc.?
Could u get back with your ex- AFTER you've already told your friends and family that you two were now apart? AFTER you've cried on their shoulders? AFTER they've given their opinions, etc.?
We write of wanting these people back in our lives, but time has passed, and I'm sure we've expressed our pain to friends and family. This message board is a great resource, but it is also anonymous.
What about those people in our lives who know our stories? How would you handle their comments? Would pride keep you from going back?

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You're probably right. Although it seems there are some that reconcile. I think the majority of people on this board are in some serious pain, fighting the battle in our minds, trying to move on. Trying to learn to give up all the dreams and plans we had with our partners.
I read something interesting, it talked about how when your dumped it seems amazing how the dumper can move on so quick and clean. My EX didn't shed a tear, it was was a 10 second SEE YA! THANKS FOR BEING MY LOYAL PARTNER AND SHARING YOUR LIFE WITH ME FOR 7 YEARS, BUT I GOTTA GO!!! Well the dumper is excited about their new life, they have no fear of new things, while the dumpee (me) is sitting there terrified, holding on to any shred of your relationship because you didn't want change, I didn't want anything new. I thought we were doing great, thank you very much.
I think as long as you're holding on to thoughts of getting back together, you'll never be excited about your future. Your future is out of your control and your just sitting there waiting. I don't think this is you, I'm giving myself a lecture here. I can't say if we'll ever get back together, I don't know. But I do know I've got to let it all go, not an easy task!
Laura
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