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Curious Question
| Wed, 08-18-2004 - 12:33pm |
Okay, so you can humor me, as I KNOW I shouldn't be dissecting and over-analyzing words an ex has said to you, but here is the short story of it all...we dated for 7 months, I wanted a commmitment, and he wasn't ready for it. Because of that, we also encountered a lot of communication problems and it was very hard for us to see eye-to-eye with a lot of things. He still wants to be friends, and he knows I may have a harder time with it, as I think my feelings for him are stronger than his for me. But I told him it would be hard, as I felt the main reason why we didn't work out was because he wasn't a very good friend to begin with, and I just wanted to know if he was ever even interested in "ME". He said, "I was interested in you. I still am interested in you." What does that mean? Interested as just a friend? I think that's basically what it means, but I guess I would just like to hear your insights. Thanks. Oh, and it was his idea to not date each other anymore.

I guess it sounds like he *is* interested in you....whether it be on a friend/romantic level - but that he knows he can't deliver on the type of commitment you are seeking. Thus, the "I'm interested in you" is a reflection of the fact that he likes you (as a friend/possibly more), but can't act on it, due to the circumstances.
Just my 2 cents.....!!
Mel :)
Of course, who knows what he really means. Sometimes when I get really pessimistic, I feel like he is playing games with me. And he did mention that he feels I have a lot of expectations but has doubts as to whether or not he can deliver. But then we talk about "us" to death and I think he finds it as a huge turn off. But, I am the one who usually does all the contacting, as I know I shouldn't, and I am even the one who acts more like a true friend. Well, when I asked if he is going to just move on he says it's for the best for the both of us, and when I ask if he is going to date others, he responds by saying, "eventually." So that pretty much sounds like it's over to me, but then he goes and says other things that seems to give me a false sense of hope, and that's the part that just drives me crazy as I think about things to death in a million different angles. Oh well, I know what I need to do...move on, but it's kind of hard to when your heart is still with someone, even though his heart isn't with me. =(