Day 1 - Thank you To you All!!

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Registered: 09-26-2007
Day 1 - Thank you To you All!!
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Fri, 11-30-2007 - 3:16pm

Hi everyone,


First of all, I just wanted to thank you all for being here for me yesterday when I really needed a place to vent and didn’t have one. Today is my first full day of no contact with my now EX bf, and I just wanted to update everyone and not be an absentee poster just to let everyone know what steps I've taken so far in dealing with this…


First of all, I got home last night after work and went onto the computer IMMEDIATELY and blocked his email address. Also, I have aol and he uses yahoo a lot to chat with me (and all the other girls apparently), and he was the only reason I even had yahoo messenger installed on my computer, so I completely uninstalled yahoo so I don’t even have that anymore. I took his number out of my phone and erased all previous calls and messages (though that's not much help right now because I have his phone number memorized. Not calling is just going to have to be in my own control). Then I shut down, again, IMMEDIATELY and went and played some games with my little 4 year old nephew. Something to take my mind off things. Today at work I went online to my health provider's website and found a bunch of therapists who take my insurance (the one I was seeing says she no longer has evening appointments, which I find hard to believe she always had a lot of them. I think she just didn’t want to continue with me to be totally honest) but that's ok, I'll find a better one. I'm also going to go to the SLAA meeting on Monday. Im doing my best to stay active instead of moping around my bedroom like I've been doing. I called my mother to see if maybe her and I could take my sister and my little nephew to dinner tonight. Also, I already made plans for Saturday night to spend it having pizza and a movie with my best friend and her 2 kids. So that should be fun. Sunday is open, and Monday its back to work and I'm worried because I have to call and get the results to the tests I had done the other night. I just hope everything turns out ok with that. Please send some good thoughts my way girls…


Well, like I said before, thanks again for being there for me, its good to know there's always a place to go when you need that little pick me up or someone to stop you from doing something stupid, which I know I'll be running here in the future for that! Because this time I'm seriously planning on never speaking to him again, even if I DON’T get the money (which I know I probably wont). I'm already counting that as gone.

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Registered: 02-08-2007
Fri, 11-30-2007 - 3:45pm

Woohooo cherrygirl831!

Good for you. I'm glad you're taking all the necessary steps. I hope you keep this momentum up and not call him again ever!! Screw the money! At least you have your sanity.

It's always great to spend time with family. When I would go through hard times with my then bf, I would spend time with my little cousins and realize that they needed to see their older cousin happy and playful, and I needed to be that for them because I loved them so much and they deserve a happy older sister (cousins are considered siblings in my culture :)).
I'm sure when you play with your nephew you see his innocence and liveliness and you realize how much you mean to someone else.

It's great that you made plans with your friends. I hope they understand where you're coming from and provide you with as much support as you need. You'll definitely need a break up buddy you can call anytime you need to vent.

And I'm sending you good thoughts in regard to your tests - I hope you'll be fine and no matter what, you're on a better path.

Good luck to you!!!

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sat, 12-01-2007 - 1:25pm
Thanks for sharing something positive, hopefully it will inspire others.