Day 5 of no contact

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-05-2003
Day 5 of no contact
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Thu, 03-17-2005 - 8:31pm

I just had to share this.

He contacted me (yes, through e-mail) Monday evening and apologized for not getting back to me, saying that he thought the message I had left him meant I was busy. (On the message, I said that I had to run a few errands and to call me, how could anyone with a reasonable amount of intelligence assume what he did?

Today, I receive another e-mail, this one saying that he, and I quote, "should be available to get together Sunday night, I will confirm that with you tomorrow."

Trying to fit me into his schedule just like an appointment, isn't that wonderful?

I hope you all don't think this is cold, but right now, I could care less about our breakup since I can see how much stock he put in the relationship.

No more contact for me!

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2004
Thu, 03-17-2005 - 9:37pm
I don't think you're being cold at all!!
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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-10-2005
Thu, 03-17-2005 - 11:50pm

Great job!!! You are doing very well and each day will get easier...I am on day 19 and there are still moments where I start to miss him but I immediately think about why I feel that way and realize there is nothing that great to miss:) I would block his email if you find yourself anticipating them...absolutely no contact is by the far the best thing you can do to truly get over someone--and it does get easier...just think, someday we will stop counting the days and not even care:)

Great job and keep it up!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-05-2003
Fri, 03-18-2005 - 8:21am

Thanks again! I appreciate the support you have shown me and I think you're doing a wonderful job as well.

I have my moments, but that's what they are, just missing him for a moment and then I think about the way he'd been treating me and know this is for the best.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-10-2005
Fri, 03-18-2005 - 9:12am

I completely understand those moments--but that is all they are...and they get easier. I still can get really sad in an instant, but I have learned to accept that this is not supposed to be easy 100 percent of the time and those moments are there to serve a purpose--this is a process. You must feel so proud, and it must be building your self-esteem because you are taking care of yourself and not dealing with someone who does not care too much about you (no matter what they have said, actions speak louder than words). I am on day 20!!! And each day has made me more appreciative of myself and taught me that I deserve to be treated right because I am worth it. And each day, do something special for yourself, even if it is working out. I treat myself and celebrate but refuse to get drunk anytime soon--I refuse to get weak!!!

Keep it up! The more days you get through, the more you will stop feeling bad...this is NOT about him, it is about you taking care of yourself. GREAT JOB!!!