dealing with other peoples happiness
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dealing with other peoples happiness
| Fri, 07-27-2007 - 1:15pm |
My ex and I have been broken up for 5 months now and there has been NC now for almost 2 months. I am still very hurt and sad b/c this guy is "the ex" you know, the one you thought you would marry and were over the moon for. Anyway, I'm having a very hard time being around happy couples, especially those with a baby (something my ex and I were talking about before he left me and I was very excited about). Since I'm almost 30 most friends/acquaintances are newlyweds or having babies. I have a good heart and am soooo happy for them, truly I am, but it kills me inside because its a reminder of what I dont have and might never have. I don't want to avoid these people because it seems like an unhealthy response but on the other hand, I hate it how when Im at the lowest point of my life everyone else is at their highest - just seems like salt in the wound. Suggestions?

I COMPLETELY feel you on this one.
My roommate is busy planning her wedding (got engaged a few months ago, 2 weeks after our 3rd roommate, who has since moved out, got engaged) so every day she's showing me new bridal mags and venues and flower arrangements, asking if I want to go dress shopping with her.
Our new 3rd roommate just got back Monday from a 2wk Alaskan vacation with her boyfriend where OF COURSE they talked about getting married soon.
My very bestfriend was unable to talk to me during the 1st wk of my breakup because she was off on vacation with her boyfriend (who coincidentally is the guy I dated for 3yrs in high school - I dumped him almost a decade ago and couldn't care less, but still, at the moment it's not helping!)
The person I chat online with most during the day is the girlfriend of my ex's bestfriend, so I'm constantly hearing about how great things are, how they're talking about where they want to move when they get married, all their lovely weekend plans. (I'm contemplating blocking her. Thoughts?)
I'm with you, how do you deal with this? Eveytime I think I'm starting to cope, it's thrown in my face how happy everyone else is, how the ENTIRE REST OF THE WORLD can have functional beautiful relationships...and I can't.
My ex and I used to joke in bed and laugh at all these other people's relationships because they were no one near as wonderful as ours. Now who's laughing? Karma's a b----.
my first breakup was 3 yrs ago with another guy. he dumped me for someone else, and i was so in love and heartbroken that i would still beg him back even after they moved in together....so youre not alone...
and let me tell you, i wish i played it cool and never called after the breakup. instead i called and cried and cried and all he said was " im sorry im not changing my mind"...
this is hard. its hard to be home on the weekends and just be sad....really really sad :(