Dealing with a setback

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Dealing with a setback
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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 12:44pm

It's been just over 7 weeks since my 5 month relationship ended, supposedly because he couldn't deal with being responsible and reliable with me because he was so depressed over not being able to find a full time job (he started disappearing for days at a time as well as blowing me off when we had plans without calling to let me know).


When we ended it (over the phone on New Year's Eve), he said that he wanted to just be friends "for now", until he got a job and had his life more together.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 02-20-2008 - 2:34pm

Hi Sheri,


Do you know what 'gets you there sooner'?

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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 3:02pm

Thanks Carrie.


Well, last night was a very good reminder of what it felt like to be in a relationship with him towards the end.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 02-20-2008 - 3:19pm
Yep, usually people don't make it easy for us. We do have to set our own boundaries.
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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 3:25pm

It's true, they don't, the buttheads ;-).


I'm going to do nothing for the time being.

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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 6:51pm

Almost the same is happening to me...He dissapeared from me two months ago without a word. But this was a year old msn long distance relationship...but I became kind of attached to him. Yes...we had some serious problems from the last month before

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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 8:38pm

Quick update...he did call this afternoon to apologize--supposedly he fell asleep.

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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 8:47pm

Oh, I went through that 2 years ago!

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Registered: 10-08-2006
Wed, 02-20-2008 - 9:12pm

Sheri,


HUGE ((HUG)) for you!


In the past couple of years or so, I've been dropping in and out of this message board and a few others and you are one that I have always seen taking your time to respond to people, giving very sound advice, and trying to help.

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Registered: 02-15-2008
Wed, 02-20-2008 - 9:47pm
Well, I am sorry to hear that we are going through similar things. As hard as it is we have to stay strong. And its a little easier knowing that we have people going through the same things and can help us out. Keep me posted on whats going on. Best of luck. Stay strong!
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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 9:49pm
I think I'm going to give this game to that jerk who blocked me from msn after 1 year LDR without even saying goodbye. I know he'll one day contact me again...and is going to happen what happened to you for a looooong time!!! nooooooo!!!.....I'll do it first...and that way I will put him in his place!!! Great idea!!!!!! I'll give him his game...I'll flirt...act like I'm not broken heart...act casual happy and all beautiful wheather...and when he's all enthusiastic again...cus he only likes me when I'm happy and entertaining, like if entertaing was my job in the relationship...and my heart doesn't count...pfffff...well...when he takes me back on his msn...cus now I'm entertaining and happy wheather again....theeeen....I'll dissapear on him!!!!! Oh my God!!! I'm so excited with my idea that you're experience has given me !!! I'll put this dude on his place...cus he did all this to me on purpose knowing that such silent treatment would kill me...and I was nothing but too nice to him pffff and that at least a goodbye would have been better than nothing....pfff...I'll show him not to ever play with people's feelings again...oh yessssss...thanks for sharing your experience...I guess one can't just be too nice with men!!!!!!!!

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