Debating blocking his emails..

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Registered: 09-06-2004
Debating blocking his emails..
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Sun, 09-12-2004 - 12:16am
I am debating blocking his emails. What do you all think?

I am trying to maintain NC. But, boy, is it killing me! I am still pathetically waiting checking my emails, phone, etc. I believe there is about a 75/25% chance of a reconcillation. But, I cannot handle anymore ambivalent emails. I believe if I stopped having to check my email every 5 minutes or hoping for one, I'd get some of my sanity back! I figure if he really wanted to talk to me and realized I was blocking his emails he'd call right? If they really loved us they'd try harder right? Or, do you think he'd be so pissed, or think I really didn't want to hear from him that he'd stop trying?

I am trying my best to move on and accept that it's over. But, I can't. Not just yet.

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Registered: 04-08-2004
Sun, 09-12-2004 - 1:08am
Yes, if he really wanted to get ahold of you, and if you weren't responding to his emails, he would call you. I'm not sure he'd assume you're blocking him, just that you're not responding (and, at least with Hotmail, he doesn't get a "bounce back" message, it just doesn't get through, I blocked one of my two emails and verified that for myself). If you just can't resist, blocking may be a good idea, but only if you're not spending that time obsessively wondering if he's been emailing and waiting for him to call call. That is, block because you understand it's not good for you to get ambivalent messages from him, not because you're substituting a different kind of obsession/game-playing. Alternatively, you may want to just create an email folder, drop his emails in there unread, and promise yourself you won't read for at least a week, or won't read anything until/unless you get at least 5 messages from him, something. You'll have the feeling of control, you won't be substituting the "I wonder if he's emailing, getting blocked, and about to call" obsession for the reading email obsession. Just a thought.