Debating whether to break up...
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|Sat, 12-22-2012 - 8:13pm|
Thanks in advance for any advice. My boyfriend and I have been together for three and a half years, and it's been very smooth sailing - we have only had a couple of fights, we both like doing the same things, we get to travel a lot, he's a super-nice guy with a very successful career, and he loves doing things for me. Sounds great, but very recently I've begun to have my doubts on a few points:
1. I have not been particularly interested in sex for the last year or so. He almost always has to initiate, and I almost never turn him down, though I'd like to say no more often than I do. I consider myself to be a fairly sexual person, and I have a lot of erotic dreams, however he hardly ever features in them.
2. I brought up the discussion of marriage a couple months ago, to which he replied he wasn't sure enough about our relationship to take the next step yet. I understand different people have different timetables, but part of me wonders if he isn't sure now, will he ever be?
3. He's been traveling on holiday for several weeks (I wasn't able to join him due to work), and I've hardly felt I missed him, other than the first couple days.
4. While he's been traveling, I inadvertantly ended up in a date-like situation with a coworker that ended with some flirty text messages, and I had a lot of fun with it. I think this might be the catalyst that has me thinking about points 1-3 when I had been previously shoving them under the mental rug.
I'm conflicted, because we get along so great and I can see us having a great life together, but I'm concerned that something is missing. Anyone been in a similar situation and have any advice to give?