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Thu, 06-21-2007 - 11:16am

 

the past is OVER

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Thu, 06-21-2007 - 11:48am
Some people won't agree with me, but yes I would do it. My ex of 5 years and I broke up now 3 months ago and he immediately started dating his co-worker. Well, his best friend and a good friend of mine are getting married (not until next year). I will be there...and know he will be there with her. And yes, I am bringing a hot date. I am sure at that point I will not care one bit about him but I am going...and I am going to look and feel great. Call it revenge, call it what you want, it is empowering.
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Thu, 06-21-2007 - 12:09pm

bacilosfan...

Aside from your "3 minutes of fame" at the microphone, Pianoguy wonders if what you're intending will make you feel THAT MUCH BETTER?

Some men and women believe in the "eye for an eye" theory...and if that's the way you HONESTLY feel...carry out the deed! But I'm willing to bet you'll feel like crap a few days later?

Pianoguy

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Thu, 06-21-2007 - 12:32pm
Not if she is confident and has a good time. Unless it is too soon to see the ex.
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Thu, 06-21-2007 - 2:14pm

In my honest opinion, you need to take the high road.

Going to his openmic thing with a hot guy would only seem petty, childish, and make you look like a fool.

Sure he broke your heart, and is now with his ex, but please take the high road, don't contact him and don't show up anywhere you know he'll be.

The best REVENGE is living your life, moving on with your life, and not even acknowledging him.

Trust me. It will only make you feel worse.

~Amber

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Registered: 06-06-2007
Thu, 06-21-2007 - 2:31pm
I see nothing wrong with going out and having a good time. You go girl! Sometimes fluff and flowers are for the birds :)
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Thu, 06-21-2007 - 3:05pm

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Thu, 06-21-2007 - 5:25pm
My only concern is how does the hot new guy feel about all this? Going out with a girl to make her ex feel jealous sounds like a big turn-off for any guy.
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Thu, 06-21-2007 - 8:49pm

it sounds like you are seeing this guy...i say bring him. Not so much for revenge, as much as to have a good time. And if your TRULY having a good time, you won't care about the ex...and if it bothers him, great- you got a bonus. And if it doesnt', well at least you weren't a wallflower all alone. Just don't go overboard and be obvious...live your life with your new guy and enjoy!!!

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Registered: 06-16-2007
Thu, 06-21-2007 - 9:03pm
I know this feeling very well, but my idea about a "revenge" was a little bit different.
When I broke up with the boyfriend I was with three years ago I put all my energy in doing sports and in reinforcing my ( neglected, due to my relationship) contacts to men I knew, as he had always made jokes about my fitness(actually my weight) and had also been quite jelaous, so I wanted him to see me in best shape having funny conversations with men.
I just wanted him to see that he lost a person that is not as unworthy as he treated me. Fortunately, it worked out as I wished.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 06-21-2007 - 10:16pm

Hi bacilosfan!

Pianoguy can't read this any other way.

You have EVERY RIGHT TO BE ANGRY for the poor way the jerk treated you. So you can step up to the microphone and verbally pulverize him in front of an audience.

But I honestly wonder if they're gonna understand your reason for venting in public? Some members of the group...who aren't familiar with the events that took place...might consider you a "ranting hysterical female?" And you'll be the one who comes off looking bad?

I honestly can't make it any plainer than...(quoting country singer, Reba McIntyre): "IT'S YOUR CALL!"

Pianoguy

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