PG, see this is what I was talking about before in the other post: She's not the one taking the mike on open mic night, her *ex* is. She's just going as a spectator to have a good time with the new guy she's currently seeing.
I thought the "open mike" announcement was something bacilosfan was going to do!
Personally...I like the idea of LAUGHING THROUGH HIS SONG a lot more than you standing up in front of an audience. Perhaps you could bring in a "small army of friends" and at appropriate intervals...get them to HISS or BOO your EX's efforts?
This way...you wouldn't be singled out as the only person who didn't care for the song. It would be more along the lines of GENERAL CONSENSUS FROM THE AUDIENCE!
PG has always found that there's strength (not to mention SAFETY) in numbers!
And that's the reason I suggested that J not only bring her current b/f, but a bunch of other friends as well. This way...the heckling can be handled by ALL the members of the group...and not just one!
His daugher (who is very attached to me) called me last Saturday and I felt obligated to call her back. Based on her phone message, it didn't seem that she knew we broke up. So, I called, and of course my ex picked up. We had a loooog talk and I finally had some questions answered about our break-up. He also told me that he was planning to go to the open mic thing alone. (?) So, I'm glad his daughter stepped in (fate, I guess) to save me from my evil schemings!
So, despite the phone conversation, I still think my ex is a jerk - and I just need to keep moving on. Of course his daughter wants to be "friends" but I just don't see how it's gonna work. Maybe I'll post another topic about dealing with an ex's kids. Can you be friends with an ex's kids?
I was wondering how that all went down! Fate's funny :)
It's possible to be friends with an ex's kids (or niece and nephew, in my case). Some will say that's unnecessary or unhealthy, but whatever, I don't listen to those people ;) Far as I'm concerned, children can't have too many good role models in their lives. It takes a good solid effort to separate it all, and also, even though your ex was a jerk to you, it's a matter of asking his permission to continue the relationship with his child.
A couple of weeks ago, there was a concert that I knew my ex's niece would really enjoy. I was going anyway, and it's always so much better to go to that kind of thing with someone. My ex figures heavily in her life, he's very much a father figure to her and I respect that. I asked him if it was ok to take her, and then I asked her mom (his sister) the same. They each gave the ok, and my ex brought her to meet up with me then left us to have our "girls' night out," and we had a great time!
So, it's possible, just takes a steady hand to keep it all separate.
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For Sandra and bacilosfan...
PG apologizes for the misunderstanding.
I thought the "open mike" announcement was something bacilosfan was going to do!
Personally...I like the idea of LAUGHING THROUGH HIS SONG a lot more than you standing up in front of an audience. Perhaps you could bring in a "small army of friends" and at appropriate intervals...get them to HISS or BOO your EX's efforts?
This way...you wouldn't be singled out as the only person who didn't care for the song. It would be more along the lines of GENERAL CONSENSUS FROM THE AUDIENCE!
Pianoguy
Once again to Sandra and J (aka bacilosfan)...
PG has always found that there's strength (not to mention SAFETY) in numbers!
And that's the reason I suggested that J not only bring her current b/f, but a bunch of other friends as well. This way...the heckling can be handled by ALL the members of the group...and not just one!
GOOD LUCK IN WHATEVER YOU DECIDE TO DO!
Pianoguy
After all of this - I didn't go!
His daugher (who is very attached to me) called me last Saturday and I felt obligated to call her back. Based on her phone message, it didn't seem that she knew we broke up. So, I called, and of course my ex picked up. We had a loooog talk and I finally had some questions answered about our break-up. He also told me that he was planning to go to the open mic thing alone. (?) So, I'm glad his daughter stepped in (fate, I guess) to save me from my evil schemings!
So, despite the phone conversation, I still think my ex is a jerk - and I just need to keep moving on. Of course his daughter wants to be "friends" but I just don't see how it's gonna work. Maybe I'll post another topic about dealing with an ex's kids. Can you be friends with an ex's kids?
Thanks for all of your advice.
I was wondering how that all went down! Fate's funny :)
It's possible to be friends with an ex's kids (or niece and nephew, in my case). Some will say that's unnecessary or unhealthy, but whatever, I don't listen to those people ;) Far as I'm concerned, children can't have too many good role models in their lives. It takes a good solid effort to separate it all, and also, even though your ex was a jerk to you, it's a matter of asking his permission to continue the relationship with his child.
A couple of weeks ago, there was a concert that I knew my ex's niece would really enjoy. I was going anyway, and it's always so much better to go to that kind of thing with someone. My ex figures heavily in her life, he's very much a father figure to her and I respect that. I asked him if it was ok to take her, and then I asked her mom (his sister) the same. They each gave the ok, and my ex brought her to meet up with me then left us to have our "girls' night out," and we had a great time!
So, it's possible, just takes a steady hand to keep it all separate.
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