No one really knows what someone is thinking or can understand the motives behind one's actions. In any case that shouldn't be your concern anymore, you're not a mind reader and you shouldn't have to be. Next time he tries to contact you, be upfront and honest with him and tell him not to call you anymore. Tell him that you need your space to move on from this and out of respect to you to refrain from contacting you any further. Hopefully he's mature enough to respect your wishes and not to call you anymore.
Yes, it sounds like he was motivated by guilt. For whatever reason, most guys can't deal with being the "bad guy" in a breakup so they figure that if you're doing ok and/or will take their calls, they must not have hurt you that much.
Some exes are motivated by other things (they are over you and want to be friends, not understanding that you're not at that point yet, for example) but since he didn't really want to talk, I'd say guilt.
What I would suggest doing, if you haven't already, is sending him a pre-emptive email, saying that you would appreciate him giving you the space you need to get over him and not contacting you again unless he is sincerely interested in giving your relationship another try (assuming you'd be open to that). Otherwise, you'll contact him when you're ready to be friends. Then block him from emailing you and from calling you (if possible--I know most cell phones don't let you block calls).
he missed you.....but he got upset cuz you ask about the girl.... maybe his assuming youll be talking about you and him but instead you ask about the girl....
They say that the breakup hurts both people, the one that is being broken up with and the person that decided to call it quits. I guess he still cares about you and wonders if you re doing ok. I wish my ex would call to ask me if I ok, at least your ex seems to care while mine just does not care about me. I guess there are two sides to everything. I guess him calling to ask you if u re ok gave you hope, but for him he just wants to see if u re ok and if yes then he could be at peace knowing that u will be happy soon. Hugs elana
I am not sure why they call, i guess it depends on the type of person you know your ex to be. It is one week today that my ex broke up with me and we've had no contact, which means that he hasn't even tried to call me. It makes me feel kinda bad but I know it's worse to talk to them so I think i'm much better off if he doesnt even call, it will help the recovery process. I think my ex hasn't called because he knows how much pain i'm feeling right now and like someone said in the previous post, he cares enough to not want to see me so hurt so he's not calling so that he doesn't feel worse himself. I would tell your ex to please not contact you, that way you can regain some sense of power in what goes on and not just let him call you when he wants knowing that you'll be there to answer his calls. Don't let him take control of your recovery! Take control yourself and put an end to the contact once and for all! Best of luck.
My guess it's the little black book entry. He wants to keep you in it, just in case...in the future...maybe... So he's not going to burn those bridges.
Probably he misses quite a few things about you and maybe he's not sure he made the right decision.
Maybe he wants you to cry and say you miss him and want him back.
Probably all of the above.
Whatever the case, none of it is helpful to you. Sadly. Unless of course, it is flattering to know you are at least thought of...
Carrie
Yes, it sounds like he was motivated by guilt. For whatever reason, most guys can't deal with being the "bad guy" in a breakup so they figure that if you're doing ok and/or will take their calls, they must not have hurt you that much.
Some exes are motivated by other things (they are over you and want to be friends, not understanding that you're not at that point yet, for example) but since he didn't really want to talk, I'd say guilt.
What I would suggest doing, if you haven't already, is sending him a pre-emptive email, saying that you would appreciate him giving you the space you need to get over him and not contacting you again unless he is sincerely interested in giving your relationship another try (assuming you'd be open to that). Otherwise, you'll contact him when you're ready to be friends. Then block him from emailing you and from calling you (if possible--I know most cell phones don't let you block calls).
Sheri
I wish my ex would call to ask me if I ok, at least your ex seems to care while mine just does not care about me. I guess there are two sides to everything.
I guess him calling to ask you if u re ok gave you hope, but for him he just wants to see if u re ok and if yes then he could be at peace knowing that u will be happy soon.
Hugs elana
My guess it's the little black book entry. He wants to keep you in it, just in case...in the future...maybe... So he's not going to burn those bridges.
Probably he misses quite a few things about you and maybe he's not sure he made the right decision.
Maybe he wants you to cry and say you miss him and want him back.
Probably all of the above.
Whatever the case, none of it is helpful to you. Sadly. Unless of course, it is flattering to know you are at least thought of...