In denial?

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Registered: 08-28-2005
In denial?
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Fri, 11-11-2005 - 9:04am

Hey! I have done serveral posts about his guy I am dating. Should I have the talk or not. I had told him how I felt at a bar and in a written letter. Well, he had never told me how her felt. Well, on monday I had the talk with him. I told him exactly how I felt and that I wanted a serious realtionship with him. He said, that he liked me but didn't know if he wanted to be serious. I half expected that answer. He was put on the spot. I said, to him you mean you don;t know and he said yes I do not know. We had a couple of other private matters to discuss. I kinda understand that he didn't know. After the talk we went and had dinner. We hugged goodbye and I kissed him on each cheek and I told him I meant everything I said and he said I know i will take that into consideration. He also gave me a kiss on the lips. We also dicussed seeing a movie together. I thought for sure he would not call , but he did. Another innocent date. It is his bday this weekend and he might be renting a stretch hummer and he mentioned he'd give me a call or meet up somewhere, cause I am going out with girlfriends for a girls night. I thought he would go back home for his bday.

Is this a promising situtation or am I in denial? Honestly, I feel our conversation went well. I was surprised. I felt we really bonded that night, we also discussed other private matters and that went well,
How long should I wait to ask about whether he knows if he wants to be serious with me? I am thinking give him a couple of weeks...??. I am hoping that I will not have to bring up the serious issue. It is his turn.
I did find out that while he has been seeing me he has been dating another girl from back home.It is over. He has not seen her in a month and will not be seeing her again. Trust me..

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Registered: 09-22-2005
In reply to: gal_jen1234
Fri, 11-11-2005 - 12:37pm

Hi Jen,


So, here is what I gather from your post... you're seeing a man casually, you want to be serious/exclusive, but he says that he "doesn't know" if that is what he wants.

Nikki