Devastated - Please help if you can :o(
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| Mon, 05-22-2006 - 7:27am |
Hi there,
I have never written on this board before so hello everyone, I hope you are well. The reason I am writing on here is because I am so devastated I dont know what to do or where to turn.
At the weekend, my boyfriend of 5 years (we have lived together for 4 years) announced that he is no longer happy and wants to split up. Whilst I made it absolutely clear that I did not to want to split and that I would try whatever to make it work, I also realise that you cannot make somebody feel the same way as you do and do not want to come across as desperate or am not going to beg him to change his mind.
We have had our ups and downs in the past but I always hoped we would conquer them but in all fairness he never seemed as committed as me to making things better. I'm sorry that I am not making alot of sense I just dont want to carry on. My heart is physically aching as I type and everything seems so bleak. I woke up this morning and felt OK for about 5 seconds and then all the misery came flooding back and I felt as though I didnt want to get out of bed and face the world or work.
His cousin is getting married this weekend and we were supposed to be staying in a hotel for the weekend and we have a holiday to Spain booked in June and every time I think of either of these things I cannot stop crying.
I'm not expecting a mircle to happen I just wanted some reassurance that things will get better. Anybody else in my situation I would tell them that in time it would get better but I feel like it never will.
Love Sad Spanish Eyes x

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Sadspanisheyes,
I can really relate to your situation. Feeling devastated after leaving a relationship after so long is so tough to get through. You feel like you won't get better and you can't move on without him. Things WILL get better (cliche). It's going to take a long time and it's going to hurt a lot, but things will get better. Everyone has different ways of healing, you just have to find out what helps you best. Yes, cry and mourn all you need, it's healthy but after a certain point sulking and thinking about what you could've done or what might have been is just going to hold you down and keep you there and you're going to feel more devastated as each day passes. Sometimes, you just have to accept that the relationship is over and think realistically about what is best for you. It's easier said than done because your head says one thing but your heart wants something else. There's no time frame to when things will get better but you have to try and work for it. I don't know if that's helpful, I hope it is. Take care and dry those eyes!
Best wishes,
-imsnappleflavoured
Hi Sad Spanish Eye,
Last sunday was my X's sister wedding that we were suppose to go together. Bought this beatuful dress to wear back in March (which is still hanging in my closet, would take it back but had it altered!) Today was the day that we were going to Greece and Turkey for 2 weeks, we had planned since last summer,He broke up with me 8 weeks ago.
I know how you feel, hurt sad, disappointed of what could of been.But you know what I am sure I will someday go to Greece and Turkey with the person that I am meant to be with.
So cheer up, Spain will always be there and you to will find someone better to go there with!
by the way the physical pain does go away after awhile, than it just becomes a dull pain.unfortunately that is all I know since I haven't felt all that better yet either.
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