Chica, for your own good, stay far away from him. He's telling you straight up he's not getting into relationship. No matter how much you like him, just that alone is not enough to suddenly make him be over his previous girlfriend. He's telling you he already hurt someone that way, and that his feelings have not yet changed. It takes a while to get over someone.
There's no "interpretation" necessary here, he's speaking plain English. From experience of a couple years leading this board, the only time people say, "I'm confused" is when they don't like the answer they're getting. You *know* he's not ready to get into anything with anyone, but you like the flirting, want to be special enough to him to be the exception, and are letting yourself get swept up, even though your gut is telling you much different. Go with your gut. You know it's saying to stay away from him.
You're going to get hurt, he's telling you this. If you continue, you cannot blame him, that's the whole point of him telling you upfront. He'll flirt, he may even kiss and whatnot, but that has zero to do with the real feelings inside him, which are obviously still completely wound around hs ex-gf. He's human and he wants to feel better about himself. Flirting is one way to do that. Doesn't mean anything deeper than that. On this board, we tell folks to flirt lightly and not let it lead to anything a month or so after a break up so they can start to heal their self-esteem a little bit. That's what this guy is doing. That's all.
Proceed with this guy completely at your own risk.
Chica, for your own good, stay far away from him. He's telling you straight up he's not getting into relationship. No matter how much you like him, just that alone is not enough to suddenly make him be over his previous girlfriend. He's telling you he already hurt someone that way, and that his feelings have not yet changed. It takes a while to get over someone.
There's no "interpretation" necessary here, he's speaking plain English. From experience of a couple years leading this board, the only time people say, "I'm confused" is when they don't like the answer they're getting. You *know* he's not ready to get into anything with anyone, but you like the flirting, want to be special enough to him to be the exception, and are letting yourself get swept up, even though your gut is telling you much different. Go with your gut. You know it's saying to stay away from him.
You're going to get hurt, he's telling you this. If you continue, you cannot blame him, that's the whole point of him telling you upfront. He'll flirt, he may even kiss and whatnot, but that has zero to do with the real feelings inside him, which are obviously still completely wound around hs ex-gf. He's human and he wants to feel better about himself. Flirting is one way to do that. Doesn't mean anything deeper than that. On this board, we tell folks to flirt lightly and not let it lead to anything a month or so after a break up so they can start to heal their self-esteem a little bit. That's what this guy is doing. That's all.
Proceed with this guy completely at your own risk.
Thanks for your response. You are absolutely right!
Welcome to the board hellolisa1970,
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Edited 2/4/2008 6:45 pm ET by hellolisa1970