did he get scared?

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Registered: 01-31-2007
did he get scared?
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Wed, 01-31-2007 - 2:12pm
Been seeing this guy for about 6 months.. decided one day to tell him how i felt.. told him i had strong feelings for him and he said he did too. Then he went on a trip with 4 other guys and when he came back he told me that he wanted to take a break and just see where things go. Told me he still wanted to talk to me and remain good friends.. Ok so now do i contact him if i dont hear from him in a few days? Do i just cut all ties? I really had feelings for him and i'm not sure what happened on the trip that made him change his mind. I have all kinds of feelings.. i go from sad to mad in a matter of seconds. I want to see him and contact him but i get the feeling that since he's not attempting to contact me that i'm better off leaving it alone? I have no idea what this means. Is there a way to get him back? Please help
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 10:58am

heartbroke2007...

Pianoguy's "best guess" is that your b/f's buddies convinced him: "YOU DON'T WANT TO BE TIED DOWN WITH A WIFE AND A FAMILY?"

While I can understand your feelings of anger and disappointment---your post didn't give me the impression that your b/f wanted ANYTHING MORE THAN A GOOD FRIENDSHIP WITH YOU?

Don't bother contacting him. Keeping your distance might "wake him up" and "make him realize what he's missing" by your absence in his life!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 09-30-2006
Fri, 02-02-2007 - 1:56pm

You may never know what happened, so it's best to look forward, not back. My suggestion is to make a new goal:

Let him wonder: Is there a way to get her back?

Not to be stereotypical, but he should be chasing you. Otherwise, he has nothing to do that challenges him.

Turn the tables and say to yourself: "HE SHOULD BE SO LUCKY!"

Then act as if you don't care and walk away. If he follows, let him decide where it goes next. If he doesn't, you're still farther down the road away from him, and toward getting over him.

Good luck.




Edited 2/2/2007 1:59 pm ET by devuchka