Did I Act like a Psycho Ex?
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| Wed, 02-28-2007 - 2:51pm |
Hi, I have a question. Like most people who have just been dumped, I wonder if I behaved "nuts" or "psycho" during the breakup. This is what happened.
The breakup resulted in a big fight (no screaming, just heated discussion) and ended with him hanging up on me after I said I hated him. Later that night, I called him about 3/4 times (no answer) so on the last call I left a weepy message saying I was quitting my job, moving back home with my family and changing my #. He then texted me to stop calling, he was working. I text back that I just wanted to tell him I was moving and I would not "bother" him again. However, a few hours later I gave into myself and called him twice more (no answer) and then realizing he would not answer, text him one more time simply saying be well/good luck. I have been NC since.
In sum, my behavior consisted of about 10 phone calls/texts the day of the breakup, with that one weepy message. I am a very mellow person who barely ever raises her voice, so I could see how he would consider that behavior from me "psycho" especially the message. But on the other hand, I made no efforts past the one day, did ultimately text a nice goodbye of sorts and then gave up.
Please give honest opinions on whether you think I acted like such a crazyperson that he is thinking "What a lunatic. I will never call her again!" Any stories for comparision purposes would help too! Thanks -

No you are not..you are just a girl..
just look at this:
he broke up with me 2 weeks ago.i tought there is still some hope.today he told me there isnt any.i told him to get a hell out of apartment that i cannot look at him or be next to him after what he have done..he say fine and leave..2 hours im hating him and then again moment of weekness..im having phone in my hand and trying to resist.i call him..he is on seminar..i call again ..he hanges up..i send sms that it is importan.he send sms he cant anyway.i send sms :but it is veeerrry imortant and he finely answers.then i didnt have a clue what a say then just started to cry and ask him AGAIN is he sure and to give me a chance..well suprise suprise answer was the same and he hanged up..i was stupid to espect anything else.
all i can tell you is calling REEEALLY doesnt help.actually it makes things even worst!!!!
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Wow. Well, I can't deny that I hoped everyone would scoff and say "no ive heard much worse" and the guy did not think that etc/still called....but I guess thats not the case.
It is really quite humiliating to think that I, mellowest of the mellow, am now thought of by him as a raging lunatic! Now I have even more incentive to never contact him again a.k.a. complete humiliation about my behavior.
....."This person brings out a desperation in you because you love them.".....