did i do the right thing?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2003
did i do the right thing?
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Fri, 06-03-2005 - 3:55pm

A couple of years ago, I was a member of a church, the Pastor was single/unmarried. We dated for a while, then the relationship went sour. I ended up leaving the church hurt and bitter. The aftermath was somewhat difficult for both of us. I cut all ties to the church including friendship with a few members I considered to be good friends.

Recently, I ran into them at an event. They still miss and care about me. I was touched.

I called the Pastor. We didn't talk about the past. I asked him if he had any concerns about me returning to the church. He said no, I'm more than welcome.

I attended church on Sunday and his sermon was about gossip. He said that he didn't want members gossiping about him or anyone else. like who he dated, things of the past, etc. He wanted to be sure to nip gossip in the bud ASAP. He said gossip hurts people.

I have a feeling that some members are talking about my return and why i left in the 1st place. I feel that why the pastor sermon was about gossip.

I feel uncomfortable, should I have returned?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-28-2003
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 7:45pm
Isn't isn't whether you did the right thing by giving the church a second try, question is why stay if you're uncomfortable.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-22-2005
Sat, 06-04-2005 - 1:03am
I think that the pastor's sermon was inappropriate. I agree with you that it was probably about your situation, but for him to base a sermon on it wasn't right - especially if it was your first week back. Your church ties are obviously important to you, and you shouldn't sever your other relationships there because of him. Hopefully the gossip will die down soon and you can begin to enjoy the church again.