Did I do the right thing?

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Registered: 02-11-2005
Did I do the right thing?
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Fri, 02-11-2005 - 1:15pm
I just broke up with my boyfriend. I found some females numbers, I talked to the females, they said they have never met up with him, but don't know about me, and that they met him off the internet and just have talked on the phone. I dont mind if he was talking to them as just friends, its the fact that he didnt tell me he was talking to them, and when I mentioned them, he denied them. I had to ask him 50 times before he would fess up to the truth. We have gone through problems with him lying before, and i have gotten mad and told him that he needs to be honest with me. He hasnt learned anything from that. I have never caught him cheating. I love him so much and i dont know if i was overreacting or if i did the right thing. If he does try to come back do i give him another chance? I need advice and support. i am hurting so much right now. He tried so hard to make me happy, and he says i overreact to situations a lot. I know I'm emotional, and I do overreact. I just dont know if I did the right thing.
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Registered: 03-07-2004
Fri, 02-11-2005 - 3:15pm

Why is he fishing for female "friends" on the internet, not telling them he's got a GF, talking to them and keeping it all secret from you? Don't tell me he's that hard up for a friend. And how did the existance of you, the GF, just happen to be left out of these phone calls with these newly found female "friends"? People with nothing to hide hide nothing. You've never caught him cheating. CAUGHT being the key word. He may not have traveled down infidelity road, but he's stood at the corner and contimplated it, even planned the route.

So did you do the right thing? Well, you stood up for yourself. You broke up with a cowardly guy who lies to you, and has no character. Sounds like the right thing to me.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-11-2005 - 3:31pm

He thinks lying is ok in certain circumstances. Those circumstances are defined by him and only him, so you'll never know whether or not he's being honest.

You did the right thing.

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Registered: 02-11-2005
Sat, 02-12-2005 - 7:05pm
You definately did the right thing. If they will lie about small stuff, they will most definately lie about bigger stuff down the road! Keep your chin up. He wasn't worth your time.