Did not open Ex's E-Valentine

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Registered: 06-09-2004
Did not open Ex's E-Valentine
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Thu, 02-14-2008 - 8:16pm

Hi-


I have been doing pretty good. I have maintained NC for about 3 weeks, and blocked his email addresses. An email went to my spam folder, and it was an Ecard, Valentine, from him. I did not open it. I think it will hurt me, no matter what it says. I wish he would not have done it. I am sure it is just a friendly one, to relieve his guilt, thus really doing it for himself.


AM I strange to feel this way?


Hugs.

seachells

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Registered: 01-24-2007
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 9:29pm
No you're not at all strange to feel that way. Actually, look how strong you are!! You know enough to NOT open it, you know what it will do to you and how it will make you feel. That takes a lot of courage and strenght. Good for you!!!!
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Registered: 09-28-2007
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 10:15pm

congrats. it's good you didn't reopen any wounds by opening that card.


that's really odd, for him to be sending you that...

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Registered: 08-22-2003
Fri, 02-15-2008 - 12:13am

you were stronger than i. i got a e card and my ex wanted to send flowers but said he thought it would be too much.

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Registered: 06-09-2004
Fri, 02-15-2008 - 5:29am

Thanks everyone. I did not open it because it could do a bunch of things to me, and I do not want to feel those emotions. Although, I know his M.O., he does things to assuage his guilt for hurting me, he wants to seem like the genuinely nice guy to everyone, but deep down he knows he is not.(which is OK, as he pretends to be so giving, caring, a guy who will do anything for anyone...a true farce). He can live that lie if he wants to.


It was odd, first year in a long time I did not have a guy send me a Valentine present. I received candy from my Mom & Aunt, saying it was from my two dogs, and card from a guy friend. ANd I was OK w/that.


The last time I spoke to him, we got into a fight, but somewhere in that conversation I asked him to check out a store for me and see if they had any sweaters I would like. He called my cell and told me what they had, and he would pick whatever up for me...we live 80 miles apart. I never responded, as he became snotty and said "there are no typical "michelle" sweaters".


Guys are strange, and I need to stay away from them at this point.


seachells