did sex ruin our relationship?

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Registered: 12-28-2010
did sex ruin our relationship?
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Tue, 12-28-2010 - 3:24am

I met him 18 months ago. The first 9 months of the relationship were like a fairytale. Then came the distance, we stopped being intimate for a month. I confronted him and told him I want to leave if he is not attracted to me anymore.

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Registered: 11-11-1999
Tue, 12-28-2010 - 9:40am

I'll leave it to the more expert individuals here to comment on the overall aspects of what to do, but if you do decide to give it another shot, isn't there a vaccine now to protect yourself from HPV? I think it's called Guardisall or something like that?

dablacksox


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Registered: 05-18-2009
Tue, 12-28-2010 - 11:52am

They will only give it to you if you are 26 or younger and it only protects against certain strains of HPV... Not a bad thing but I wouldn't rely on it without a condom

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Registered: 12-18-2009
Tue, 12-28-2010 - 12:28pm

I have no info on vaccines etc. , so I will keep my advice on the break -up itself.

Did you go with him to the doctor / have you seen the reports yourself or you just believed what he said ? If its the first case then, you cant go back to having a relationship with him till a solution has been found. It would not solve anything rather you will be where you were . If its the second, I would think probably it was his way to break-up, w/o fighting/blaming/pointing fingers etc. It was an easy out for him .

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Registered: 12-28-2010
Tue, 12-28-2010 - 3:27pm

we are both 36 y/o. so too late for the vaccine.

I did not see the medical report though I saw the breakout and I m sure he has a disease.