Didn't even wish me a Happy Birthday
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Didn't even wish me a Happy Birthday
| Sun, 09-12-2004 - 12:57pm |
I work with my Ex. Friday was my birthday, he knew it was my birthday because on Thursday he asked me what I was doing. Friday came, I received flowers at work from his family and another friend. He came to speak to me many times during the day, but couldn't even wish me a happy birthday. On Saturday I was at a party a mutual friend threw and my EX was there. It wasn't a birthday party for me but my friends surprised me with a cake. Still he couldn't even say hello, happy birthday or even goodnight when he left.
I guess this is the first holiday or special event since we split. It really makes me sad that after 7 years he couldn't even make the effort to show a little kindness.

On another note, I've discovered just how much relationships can be analogous to work. I recently resigned from my first law firm, to take a position that I think will offer me better opportunities for career development. While I (mostly) enjoyed my old job, it just felt stifling and I wasn't getting the opportunities I needed to develop as a lawyer (and I was getting bored out of my mind). Anyway, my mentor, the head of the litigation department, a man who had been kind of a "father figure" to me, fostered me in my career, had told me he was proud of me for my victories, he never said one word to me after I turned in my resignation. Not a "good luck in your new endeavors," not a "we've really enjoyed having you here," not one freakin word. During the 2 weeks I worked after giving notice, we'd ride the elevator together, and he'd stare at this point above my head without speaking to me. I was so hurt, I got home from work a couple of times and just cried. He knew I was itching for more responsibilities, and also knew that those opportunities just weren't available at that firm. Anyway, I don't know if he was angry, or just being petulant, but some people just can't put on a plastic smile and play nice by saying and doing the expected things. Would it have killed him to wish me luck, or at least acknowledge my three years with the firm? To get back to your ex, some people just get so self-absorbed in their own issues, they just can't go through the motions of doing what is socially expected and appropriate, so maybe yours just didn't get that it would be appropriate to wish you a happy birthday.
I've been through 2 break-ups right before my birthday...and now I'm dealing with another. Previously, the 2 guys didn't even call (and I'd been dating one of them for 5 years). In hind sight, it was probably better because a call would have thrown me back to thinking they still loved me. My birthday is this Sunday...and this year, I'm determined to not let my recent ex's call or not call effect me.
Chin up, Virgo! We have a good horoscope for today:
"Here is your horoscope for Sunday, September 12: You know what they say about the calm before the storm? Well, you're about to enjoy the calm after the storm. It's not like you haven't earned it, either. Take a deep breath, kick back and relax. It's about time. "