didnt go well

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Registered: 03-02-2008
didnt go well
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Tue, 03-25-2008 - 12:36am

Well, for those of you that were waiting to see how it went...it didn't go well. (big surpirse) I basically said I know his part and my part in it. I know the mistakes I made, but I would not have given up 5 yrs. He first said that he loved me until recently when our issues piled up and then he loves me but "not that way." THEN he said that he thinks we filled a need for each other and that I never really loved him like that either. I am wondering if that is true. God knows I helped him thru a lot of crap, but he DID come into my life at a time that I was going thru stuff and needed someone too. Is it possible that I thought I loved him and that he was "the one" when I really just wanted someone there- not necessarily him?
Anyone have experience with this?

As for the bills and stuff abt moving on...he wouldn't talk about that. He gave me most of the money for the bills he owed but not all. I told him if we werent going to work thru stuff and the break up was final, I thought that we (when possible) needed no contact. He had tears in his eyes but he said "fine." I wish it could be now so that I could get thru it. *sigh*

Thanks for listening and being so supportive everyone. Maybe this is a start to a realization for me...

Liz

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Registered: 03-02-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:01pm

Yeah I thought about that too, but if she didnt get it from one text message...or doesnt care...then she deserves whatever she gets.

NC MUST be so hard! I am glad I do not have to go thru it, one one hand. But, on the other hand, it would make things so much easier in the long run. Although, every stupid, mean, or careless thing he does or says is one more check on the "I'm right- he's wrong- I am better than this" side!

I am glad that my story helped you a little bit! Keep strong! I am trying to also!

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