Different kind of breakup...

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Different kind of breakup...
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Tue, 10-24-2006 - 6:13pm

Ok, this breakup is about a friend of mine.

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Tue, 10-24-2006 - 6:37pm

i want to be honest with you...what i think you over protected yourself for some reason....maybe because of your experience with your exbf or maybe bcoz he know your exbf...either one!!

its pretty obvious that he likes to make some move to you...but your being so over protected....which is good coz his married.....right?

well if he really treat you as his close friend he'll respect you...esp if you told him to put some space....i have a best friend we knowed each other for about 8yrs now....well my sister always tell me that this guy likes me...but i dont put meaning on our closeness...he gave me money, he kiss me on my face, or hug me...he get upset if i talk about my ex..something like that...but for me everything is just normal...but what i think about this friend of yours he come there to get something(not the car...you know)

anywayss if he doesnt change..i think its better to end the friendship and tell him straight up.

good luck

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Tue, 10-24-2006 - 7:43pm

Oh gosh, it does sound like your gut instinct picked up on something and that's why you were so uncomfortable around him. Until I read the part about him getting calls from other women, I wasn't quite sure why you were so bugged by him, but given the fact that he's disrespecting his wife (if not outright cheating), you're likely right about him wanting to get something going with you.

It's not easy to end a long-standing friendship but it does sound like the right thing to do.

Sheri

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Tue, 10-24-2006 - 8:20pm
ITA with your reaction and outcome. He "knew" what was going on and he tried to excuse it by saying that you were overreacting. If this friend was one who you had contact with once in a while then you never got to know him. His true self came about in this visit, where he thought he could have his cake and eat it too.
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Tue, 10-24-2006 - 9:04pm

I think you're right about him, as much as I hate to even think that about him.

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Tue, 10-24-2006 - 9:29pm
No man should treat any woman like that. Your space was invaded. Totally wrong. i feel for you. Total jerk
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Tue, 10-24-2006 - 10:29pm

You've seen those movies or somethign where a man is talking to a woman and just keeps backign her up and backing her up, never really touching her but she's just *really* uncomfortable the whole time until he backs her up right into a wall or a corner or something?

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Tue, 10-24-2006 - 10:38pm
Thank you, you're right, I do think he tried to excuse it or cover it up by saying

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Tue, 10-24-2006 - 10:45pm
Thanks for your male perspective on this, it really helps to validate my feelings on this that as a man, you see also that he was out of line.

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