DIfficult time w/ No Contact
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| Tue, 12-25-2007 - 9:52am |
Merry Christmas & healing thoughts to all!
I am embarrassed to admit I am behaving pathetically. I break my No Contact all of the time. Ex dumped me 10 weeks ago (after dating for 3 yrs), and is now being mean. States he can only behave irrational & cold so he can get through this. Also cries & tells me he still loves me, but it can never work. I just fall apart after rejection. I am in therapy, and realize I am just allowing the hurt to increase by contacting him. I have to stop myself. I feel as if I am out of control & started to take Zoloft to stop my obsessing. That medication is not good for me due to a health issue.
I know the break-up is the best thing for me. He was never going to commit, and was playing me for at least 18 months. Please help me with the "no contact". Any strategies? I know myself and that is the way for me to get over people, but actually doing it is what is killing me. Thanks

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Thanks Charleen-
I will have to read it. Did you join the email group? If so, was it helpful? What was your turning point, meaning, what enabled you to have NC? My ex did call me y2 days ago, but I would not answer the call. My therapist thinks my issue is a lot w/ the fact that he will not try again, and he is so pliable w/ everyone else.
Thanks you for your suggestions. I am sorry the Holidays were difficult for you. WIshing you a Fantastitc 2008!
seachells
For me the turning point was one day the phone rang and instead of wishing it was him, I was dreading that it was him.
Oh My God....this is so perfect.
Don't know why, but I had this awful feeling last night that I should check my myspace account and sure enough I was right.
It IS an itch you shouldn't scratch.
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