do i do n/c with her too???

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Registered: 07-29-2007
do i do n/c with her too???
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Sun, 08-12-2007 - 3:48pm
hello all. question... while im trying to move on should i still talk to his daughter online. she has me on her myspace and she ims me when she sees im online.
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Registered: 06-22-2006
Sun, 08-12-2007 - 4:33pm

Surely you can reason through this one, his daughter isn't at fault, but neither should she be put in the middle, either.

When she contacts you, be sweet to her, ask her about her schoolwork, her activities, nothing about her father, and don't give any personal information. Don't try to "message" him though her, which is what a lot of people end up doing in situations like this. As the adult, act like the adult, simple as that.

Don't seek her out, but don't shun her either. It's a razor sharp line, and personally speaking I'd probably not listen to anyone who says don't speak to her at all, that's just not fair to her. Just focus the communication on her when she contacts you, don't contact her.

Good luck,

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Sun, 08-12-2007 - 5:38pm
thanks. i wasnt too sure. i do talk to her but she doesnt really understand that me and her dad isnt together anymore and she is always wanting me to come over. im glad its ok to still talk to her, i love her like my own i just have to remind myself not to ask about how her dad is etc. she told me they went to the beach and i had all i could do not to ask who and all went, but i just said im glad you had fun.