DO I LET HIM GO?

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Registered: 04-12-2008
DO I LET HIM GO?
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Sat, 04-12-2008 - 2:50am

Hello everyone.


I was dating someone for about 8months, we were in love so quick, he is 4 years younger than me. i have never been happier in my life.


Somehow things changed and he distanced himself.. but when i message him he tell me he stills loves me and want me to be the mother of his children, but he just didnt make the effort to see me.


we agreed wed get bak together only like 2 weeks ago..but i have only seen him like once, and when i bring up that i need to see him more. he says your always arguing with me and bringing that up.it seems he doesnt want the pressure of a girlfriend.


So i said to him lets be friends the other day and he said no.. So anyway i cut contact for a few days and he sent me a message on my fone saying why are you ignoring me.. i love u and miss you.. but then when i call.. he doesnt say lets see each other, and complains he has no money.. i dnt want his money!


He has a great job and saves too very well.


Last time i spoke to him was 3 days ago and i said well do u want to go movies on friday and he said he planned a nite with his mate.. i was angry but i didnt show him that. he goes wat about saturday nite what

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Registered: 02-04-2008
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 3:10am

i'm not 100% sure of when he got his new girlfriend, but i would say it was within the next month after the break up. i found out in january, our break up was in november, but from my observation, i would say he got her pretty quick. it was hard stuff let me tell ya!


yeah, apparently he couldn't be single for very long. don't think he cheated on me but not totally sure.

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Registered: 04-12-2008
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 3:26am

I just want to say good on you for being strong.. you are doing well:)


When you go gym make sure you talk to guys and that make him a little jealous:P


how old are you girly?

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Registered: 02-04-2008
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 3:46am

thank you! it takes alot of effort to be strong sometimes. i actually had a guy come up to me twice at the gym last night so it worked pretty well yesterday. haha!


i'm 20. :)

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Registered: 04-12-2008
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 3:51am

at the end of the day if its meant to be..its meant to be.


ill keep you updated with my situation..


do you have msn?


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Registered: 02-04-2008
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 3:54am

ok sounds good. i don't have msn. :(


i live in the U.S.


maybe we can email?

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Registered: 04-12-2008
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 4:02am

okay.. wats ur email?

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Registered: 03-10-2008
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 4:40am

hello roxette-

from reading your post i think that maybe you are trying too hard, if i may be blunt. he might feel suffocated because you are trying to control the situation. in the end, if he doesnt want to be friends or doesnt want to talk to you, then you cannot physically force him or make him want to. i have struggled with the same thing. i have tried to accept that my ex does not want to talk to me, and if i am doing all the trying in a so called friendship then it isnt worth it. it will hurt at first, but just let him be. let the situation run its course without contacting him.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 12:19pm

Greekgirl23 and Roxette2008 - please email each other through your profiles.


Please don't put your email up on the board.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-12-2008
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 7:30pm

Hi


I dont recall positng my email her?

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 8:06pm
Neither of you did. I wasn't very clear, my apologies. I just wanted to make you neither of you did.

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