Do I need closure?
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Do I need closure?
| Wed, 01-17-2007 - 9:06am |
My boyfriend and I broke up last week - I think. I wanted to have a civil and mutual break-up but the conversation didn't go very well and he ended up hanging up on me and never called me back. I don't know if he just didn't want to deal with the finality of it or what, but I felt like this is ultimately what he wanted too. In my mind, it's over, but there's a small part of me that is hoping that he is thinking about everything thing that I said and is going to come back and realize that he doesn't want to be without me. I know that is such a small chance and he has too much pride and it would be too much effort to try and get me back. It's almost better that it played out this way, because now the last thoughts I have of him are him being immature and acting like a jerk. I think I would be a lot more sad, if we would have ended things ammicably. I just wonder if I really need to have that one last conversation with him to finalize things or if I should just let it go and move on. I would just love to know what he is thinking - I hate the wondering...

Ah, here's the thing, by breaking up with him, you gave up the right to know what he's thinking. And I gotta ask, does it really matter? I mean, what could he say that would make you feel better? Chances are if he had something to say, he would have said it or he would be in touch, or it wouldn't make you feel good.
My advice, keep moving forward. Closure is something you give yourself.
Carrie