Do I or Don't I break up with him?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2007
Do I or Don't I break up with him?
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Thu, 03-15-2007 - 6:43am

Hi Like others here guess I came to this board for some desperate advice from likeminded people!
Where Do I start....

Have a boyfriend of three years. I initially got with him when I was happy being single and had a problem in my life. So I got with him for a bit of security. I didn't think I was particularly attractive. The guy i'm with is totally the loveliest guy ever, however after having been with him for three years the spark seems to have gone. He keeps talking about settling down buying a house and I dont feel happy to do this. We hardly do anything together and I get bored. I need adventure. If its like this now, whats it gonna be like in 40 years!

Rather than dealing with the problems I ended up cheating on him back in November and he recently found out. He says he forgives me. I moved out in January to move in with a friend to get some space and enjoy now the space that I have but still see him on a regular basis.

I dont know what to do...Do I dump him and be single for a while in the hope that someone comes along? He says to me that no-one will love me like he does.
Or do I stay with him and just get over my insecurities.

Thank you for listening to me!

Aimee t

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2007
Thu, 03-15-2007 - 11:51am
Hmmm...sounds like you and I are kind of in the same boat..my post is Am I an Idiot? Except I did break up already and not sure if I made the right choice now.
I would say definitely take some time away to figure things out for yourself, its the only way you'll really be able to make a decision as to whether you're happier with or without him. I think my mistake was not allowing enough time away before jumping to the conclusion to break up.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 03-15-2007 - 1:49pm

Hi aimeet1 and welcome to the board.


Whether or not you stay with him, please, please invest the time in overcoming your insecurities and boost your self-esteem.


Do you want the sparks to return with him?