Do I still love my ex boyfriend?

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Registered: 09-16-2006
Do I still love my ex boyfriend?
Thu, 06-09-2011 - 5:03pm

Hi to all,

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Fri, 06-10-2011 - 11:57pm

You're the one who wanted the breakup!

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Registered: 06-11-2011
Wed, 06-15-2011 - 8:09am
First, I would say that ending a relationship because you don't have the same feelings may be a little immature. Feelings never stay the same in a relationship. When you make a commitment to someone, you vow to work on getting those feelings back if ever they stray.

However, that's old history and it's time to work on what is ... not what used to be. I disagree with fissatore. I think you CAN and should be friends with your ex. Just because you no longer want to be with someone in a romantic way doesn't mean you shouldn't be friendly or friends with them.

Do you have a boyfriend in your life right now? If not, then I'd suggest that what you're feeling is more a case of situational jealousy. You're jealous that he has found someone new and you haven't, perhaps? Or it could be a case where now that someone else has seen the value in your ex, you do too.

No matter, I think what's called for is a serious, sit-down discussion with the ex. If he's not at all receptive, then you probably do need to cut out the contact ... at least for the time being. But if he's interested in the possibility, then you need to be very, very frank with him about your confusion. You don't want him to think that you're committed to a 2nd try only to find out once he's back in your life that you really did want out.

Love is always worth a chance. Pride has little role in it so don't be afraid of looking like a fool.