Do I tell him I love him?
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Do I tell him I love him?
| Tue, 01-23-2007 - 7:51pm |
I've posted many times and appreciate everyone's input..
To recap:
I had dated my ex for 6 months. Not a long time and it wasn't always the smoothest relationship. We started dating very shortly after he broke up with his previous gf of 5 yrs. He was my first boyfriend and I didn't know anything about relationships or love. In the time we were together, we never said I love you. I never said it because I wasn't sure if I was actually in love.. and I felt that he wasn't as commited to us as I wanted him to be. It caused a lot of insecurities on my part and we broke up because of his lack of commitment... Or so that was the reason I thought we broke up. He shortly later started dating a new girl. He has told me he is "unsure" about her but remains with her. It's been MONTHS since we broke up and I have not had NC since the breakup because we have all the same classes/friends. Talking is short and brief but seeing him with his new gf has slowed my healing. The thing is.. Although I saw a lot of "faults" in our relationship and that perhaps he the was not "The one" for me, I still think about him and us more than I should be.. Lately I have had this desire to tell him I love him.. Like it will help me move forward or something. He knows I have feelings for him because of our failed attempts at being friends. I don't know why I care for him tho. He has been a real jerk to me and used to drive me crazy. We're SO wrong for each other yet I can't prevent who my heart desires. Do I say I love him and then Goodbye for good?
To recap:
I had dated my ex for 6 months. Not a long time and it wasn't always the smoothest relationship. We started dating very shortly after he broke up with his previous gf of 5 yrs. He was my first boyfriend and I didn't know anything about relationships or love. In the time we were together, we never said I love you. I never said it because I wasn't sure if I was actually in love.. and I felt that he wasn't as commited to us as I wanted him to be. It caused a lot of insecurities on my part and we broke up because of his lack of commitment... Or so that was the reason I thought we broke up. He shortly later started dating a new girl. He has told me he is "unsure" about her but remains with her. It's been MONTHS since we broke up and I have not had NC since the breakup because we have all the same classes/friends. Talking is short and brief but seeing him with his new gf has slowed my healing. The thing is.. Although I saw a lot of "faults" in our relationship and that perhaps he the was not "The one" for me, I still think about him and us more than I should be.. Lately I have had this desire to tell him I love him.. Like it will help me move forward or something. He knows I have feelings for him because of our failed attempts at being friends. I don't know why I care for him tho. He has been a real jerk to me and used to drive me crazy. We're SO wrong for each other yet I can't prevent who my heart desires. Do I say I love him and then Goodbye for good?

<<<...We're SO wrong for each other yet I can't prevent who my heart desires. Do I say I love him and then Goodbye for good?>>>
If you KNOW that he's NOT right for you, why do you want to make a fool out of yourself and say "I love you"? Will that change the situation? Has he not humiliated you enough or else? What will be the pay off here? Girl, if you want to move on just walk away from a destructive situation, destructive for you because you're in the same place. He's moved on and has a new GF. He may not be happy, but he's moved on. You're still thinking in him, a guy who isn't good for you.