do i try and get him back?
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| Sun, 01-28-2007 - 5:15pm |
Hi, i'm looking for advice/ words of wisdom/ wake up call??
my boyfriend and I of 2 years have recently broken up. We have had problems for a few months so it wasn't a shock but it still hurts all the same. I say we had problems for a few months, in hindsight i think i had problems for nearly the whole 2 years.....for some reason I was very self protective and although i loved him and was attracted to him and we even lived together at times I found it hard to show him my love. I regret not hugging him and kissing him when he came round to my house, instead i would be bitchy and we would argue.
I told him what i regretted and that i was sorry but he said he didnt have any happy memories of us and couldnt see how we could make it work. He hasnt been perfect either but i cant help feel that we didnt show our love enough to each other and this led to the other problems.
the thing is, I want to be with him, I want to show him how i really feel, i want to love him and let him love me back, i realise this may be impossible because it will take us both to want this to make it work. And I don't have a clue how to go about trying to get back together. I want to give him some space but not too much. I guess if he meets someone else in the meantime who he wants to be with then i missed my chance and i have to accept it wasnt meant to be - but i have to try..i'm just not sure how? cards/ letters/ phone calls? any idea anybody? he's on hol at the min and I even thought about meeting him at the airport on his return - but not sure if thats crowding him and on the verge of stalking??
thanks to anybody who replies - no matter what you say it all helps!

Although you want to run to the guy bombarding him with cards/calls/seeing him at the airport is a bit too much you said it yourself it seems that he does not want to try this realtionship agian and the ship may have sailed I say to learn this as a life experience and the next time you meet someone you can learn from this one that its OK to let love in but if you beg him to come back he may run away even further give him space give yourself time for you cannot force someone to love you no matter how much you want them it takes 2 to be in love and it takes 2 to make a realtionship work better luck next time
Peace to you
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