Do you ever think about...?

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Registered: 05-10-2006
Do you ever think about...?
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Mon, 05-15-2006 - 10:56am
Let me preface this by saying that although my heart and my mind may not always be agreeing, I am not planning on acting on any impulses but today is one of those roller coaster days and I was wondering....has anyone ever thought of, or has acted on, getting closure or suggesting counseling with their ex? I know that I have my own issues I am working through, I have been reading, seeking counseling, posting and reading on these boards..;)..I just can't help thinking that if after a couple months or so if you thought of contacting your ex to talk about your past relationship or is the point lost? And I know, if they really wanted to attempt something with you they would contact you, but I was wondering that even after rationally knowing that, if anyone has thought of bringing the subject up to them or even knowing that its pretty much a lost cause if you have thought of trying to speak to them anyway...I know I am pretty much beating a dead horse right now but I can't help to have all these thoughts running through my mind and I was curious to see if I was the only one or what....
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Registered: 01-12-2005
Mon, 05-15-2006 - 11:16am

I do feel the hurt and pain behind your question.

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Registered: 05-10-2006
Mon, 05-15-2006 - 11:54am
Yes I know...I can't help but trying to get some closure and see if he's seeing someone else and if he misses me or would like to try to 'fix' our relationship..I know its crazy...I will bring this up at my counseling appt! ;)
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Registered: 05-10-2006
Mon, 05-15-2006 - 12:05pm
I also feel like I have made this so easy for him..He told me over the phone after I coaxed it out of him (I suspected somehting was wrong)...and when he told me I didnt argue, cry, say anything that i was thinking....and that was that....and now its like what if i say this what if i say that ... i know, I've written the unsent letter but its just so unfair! I want what I have to say to be heard!!!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-15-2006 - 12:11pm

It won't do any good...but if you feel you have to have your say in order to move on, then get it overwith, the sooner the better, so you can move forward. But recognize that having that contact will set you back.

Sheri