does it ever get easier?

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Registered: 04-29-2006
does it ever get easier?
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Thu, 05-11-2006 - 12:13am
it's been 20 days since my boyfriend broke up with me. i've gone through a ton of emotions. sometimes i'm good but i've found myself most recently sinking into a depresion. i clench my jaw constantly. i was doing really well until i was at my best friends apartment and he told my my ex had called him that night. for some reason i just burst into tears. i don't knwo why that happened. i guess i'm hurt over the confusion of our breakup. also the wondering if the rumors are true and has he really been dating a girl from his work who has a kid? and his seeing his mom and seeing her cry. i thought that after 20 days i would be doing so much better. and i was for a few days then BAM! i am blindsided again with overwhelming sadness. i don't know what to do. should i be doing better by now? i mean, we lived together for a year. we were looking at engagement rings. how long will i be like this?
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Registered: 01-22-2006
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 7:31am

20 days is not that long.

Susan

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 11:35am

Honestly, you'll probably be grieving for quite a while longer. You don't just get over a relationship of some length in a matter of weeks...it takes a while. I'm not telling you this to scare you but to prepare you for the reality, and let you know that it's NORMAL that you feel this way. The good news is, you don't feel terrible every day and then suddenly you're over it...it's a gradual process, but it's not a straight line...you will go through setbacks as you've discovered.

You need to tell your friends not to talk to you about your ex, though. Indirect contact can set you back almost as much as direct contact.

Sheri