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Does love really exist
| Sat, 12-23-2006 - 4:25pm |
Does true love really exist? Is it possible to be with one person for the rest of your life? Is it unrealistic to expect my boyfriend to be faithful to me? I married my high school sweetheart right out of high school. I was 18 he was 19. We were married for 7 years, had 3 kids together. And it hurt like hell when I found out he cheated. I saw the signs. But I couldn't believe that he'd ever do that to me. Now 3 years after the divorce I'm still scared that the next man will do the same thing. My boyfriend and I broke up because I didn't trust him and even though we're trying to work things out I'm scared to trust him. I'm scared to give my heart to any man because I honestly believe good men don't exist. I am tired of being lied to and hurt. I am tired of being made to feel like I'm not good enough. Sometimes I feel I'd be better off dead. My kids don't need to see their mom depressed all the time and hurting. What do I have to offer them in this state of mind? I've tried to get pass this feeling. But day after day, it gets worse and worse and worse. I'm tired of trying and I think this may be my last Christmas with my kids.

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Love is the willingness to be vulnerable to another person. I think it exists. You sound like you could use some help in getting over the hurt and betrayal of your ex. Have you considered counseling? It will help you rebuild your self-esteem also.
Reading material to consider:
Gerald G. Jampolsky wrote two really great books - Forgiveness – The Greatest Healer of All and Love is Letting Go of Fear
How to Raise Your Self-Esteem, Nathaniel Brandon
Learning to Love Yourself: Finding Your Self-Worth, by Sharon Wegscheider Cruse
How to Succeed at Being Yourself: Finding the Confidence to Fulfill Your Destiny, by Joyce Meyer (Christian Based)
National Suicide Hotline 1-800-Suicide (1-800-784-2433)
Please seek help. Your kids need you. You are their role model. Teach them to by your example - that means take care of you so you can teach them.
Carrie
after a lot of introspection i have realise dthat "love" can happen only between two STRONG and CONFIDENT individuals. love is wanting the other person to do well. but for most, love becomes about feeling good about yourself. all these jerks in ourlife - thats what they've been doing. feeling good feeding off our"love" for them.
you know something else? this depression you are in ,we all are in, is actually healthy. it means chnage. don't let it become toxic. deal with it. its ok to hurt. it is NECESSARY. coz we are going through a process where we are all discarding something that meant so much to us. its NORMAL to be hurt and depressed. after this, you will emerge stronger - have new principles in place. about how you will not allow yourself to be violated. implement them. i'm speaking from experience. now if i suspect someone is taking me for granted( even a friend) i emotionally check out. thats my way of dealing with it. not to give EVERYONE the benefit of the doubt.
and your mistrust of all me in general. thats wonderful. it your heart's way of protecting itself. from being tooo trusting - its become comletely mistrustful. soon you will reach a balance. all this pain, hurt, depression, mistrust - this only shows me you are healing!!
Like others have said, please seek professional help.
Susan
"Success is building a foundation wit
halfbarnes2 killed herself. is this message board helping anyone at all? this is so depressing. is there really no way out ?
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