Does this mean anything?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-11-2011
Does this mean anything?
Wed, 06-15-2011 - 8:02am

I'm really confused about something that happened and I'm hoping someone can offer an opinion or shed a little light for me.

My boyfriend and I (that sounds weird considering we're both just over 50 years old) are splitting up.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-21-2008
Wed, 06-15-2011 - 8:34am

Hi there,

It sounds to me like he is trying to keep his distance, maybe because it's too painful to see you at this point, maybe because he's trying to push some feelings back or away.


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Registered: 10-03-2007
Wed, 06-15-2011 - 8:36am

You were given excellent feedback on the other board. Posting it on another board wont change the reality of your situation.

I reteriate, there is no hidden meaning in this . The guy has broken up with you, doesnt want a realtionship with you.THATS IT. You need to leave his house and find your own place.He just wants to be alone in his own house with his dog and sort out his IRS and other issues.He is probably done with his money while living in a hotel while you are living in his house.

STOP looking for leads as there are none.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Wed, 06-15-2011 - 1:25pm

I so agree with the OP .

Writing a million messages on different boards wont help. You will get the same responses.

You know the meaning of insanity .. Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.

I was thinking if you really love him then let him go. Its clear he has problems and you might be adding to them. Let go of your own insecurity and ego and let the guy go.

What about your self esteem and self respect? It sounds pretty low right now as you sound like you are begging him to stay with you. You are 50 and at 50 we have made a ton of mistakes and have learned valuable lessons.. So learn the lesson and move on.

If he decides down the road that he wants you then he will come back.

People divorce; break up or fall out of love all the time. There are no

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-25-2011
Wed, 06-15-2011 - 3:49pm

I haven't read the "other board" - but being a woman over 50 myself - get out now.........its over and he is not in a place to have a relationship... you should know better