Does the pain ever go away?(long)

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Registered: 01-17-2007
Does the pain ever go away?(long)
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Wed, 01-17-2007 - 6:11pm
Well after reading these posts all day,here's my tale of woe.My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me,9 days ago.We lived together.I thought he was the Love of my life.He didn't even have the "decency" to break up with me in person,I had to call him.The thing is i work for his sister,I haven't been to work since it happened b/c i had a meltdown,well really am still in the midst of one.I did go to my Dr. & he gave me anti axienty (sp)pills that he said to take when i feel "the rubber band about to break" and anti depressants.They have helped.Thank God for my Mother because i flew into her arms as soon as this happened & she very dutifully has been there for me.(including holding me like a baby in the middle of the night when i could'nt get a grip)I think she's about to lose it with me,tho.My other "probelm" is where i live we have had freak Ice & snow storms,so i can't even move my stuff outta his house.Needless,to add to my story ,24 hours after we broke up ,I found him on a personals website,with the codename;"freebird" that says it all,eh?I just feel totally taken for a fool,i did everything for him.And gave myself totally to him.One more point ,I loaned him over $5,000,that i'm sure i'll never see again.Any helpful hints out there? Thanks for reading this long message.
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Registered: 11-21-2006
Wed, 01-17-2007 - 6:56pm
The pain does begin to subside. You are still so raw from the break-up only being 9 days ago. Lean on those who love you and those of us going through it on this board. Once you get your stuff, break all contact and let yourself heal. I too found my ex on a personals site but in my case, he and I got matched up together based on our profiles. Sounds like your ex was ready to move on and may feel a sense of relief (I am sorry if that sounds mean). I have had no contact with my ex for 51 days since he told me he was starting to date other people. I, too, was like you in the beginning. I did not think I would get thru Thanksgiving, Christmas and (especially) New Years. But I did and every day, it gets easier and easier. I no longer feel the pain I did in November but rather am looking to the future and the happiness I know I deserve. You will get through this. There are so many wonderful women (and a few men!) on this board who have great advice and support. It was an integral part in helping me through - reading other's posts helped me to know I was not in this alone and the advice I was given was so valuable. There are good and bad moments but I am certainly a testiment of someone who 51 days go thought could never be happy again and can say now that I am.
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Registered: 09-21-2006
Wed, 01-17-2007 - 7:23pm
I will be honest, I did not read ur whole post, but it does get easier each day. I have 3 emails in my box my from my ex that I have not opened yet.Hang with ur girls, do something new keep busy. Don't let one peson rule u (((((HUGS)))))
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Registered: 06-22-2006
Thu, 01-18-2007 - 11:24am

I wonder when I'll stop being amazed at how badly some people can treat others.

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Registered: 11-03-2006
Thu, 01-18-2007 - 7:12pm

wow your mom is sooo sweet...well they been there.. thats why!! so they know how we feel...right?

about your ex...i know its hard but dont let him put you down...about the money if you have proff to show...i prepare to go to a small court...this is not a small amount of money dear...you have to get it back from him...you know what i mean....

for right now...you have to respet his desicion and let his realized what he lost.

all of us been in this situation....we have to be strong...beside before we go to a relationship we have to keep in mind "LOVE HURT"....

look at me i been i a different relationship...and the one that i really love their the one who's walking away from me...thats hurt :(

but what can i do..it doesnt mean they end it...it will be the end of my world...no!!! it just mean "NEW OPTION"..

beside think about it....we are suffering for what they have done and THEM WHO KNOW'S???...I BET YAH THEIR OUT THERE PARTYING ALL NIGHT LONG.

for right now make your self busier than usual....like what happen to me almost everyday i cried bcuz of my ex and i cant sleep....well believed it or not... sometimes things happen for a reason...after we broke up...i got in a car accident...thats the reason and make me really busy fixing things..so that time i think of my ex less....and time just past...NOW its been 9mths well i still miss him but rarely...

last time i saw him it was 2wks ago..and last sunday it was his bday...i didnt call him....which is good...i think??? lol

well well well...life must go on with or without them...just remember life is too short...big hug for you dear and good luck