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Doing it alone
| Fri, 08-24-2007 - 12:48am |
Hello,
I just broke up with my boyfriend of nearly 2 years. We had a long distance relationship for about a year and things started getting sour a few months ago. I'm finding it hard to take the next step because our relationship had a special dynamic. We both know that we love and care for each other very much. We have even admitted to being each other soul mates and I had plans to move to his city after I graduate from college in May. But the distance got the best of us- jealousy, doubts about my relocation to his city, and the lack of normal interaction became difficult issues to handle and we broke up for good last Sunday. He was basically my best friend. Sure, I have other friends but no one who I feel could actually help me and give me support. Just think of this, I called two of my good girlfriends right after we broke up to help me cheer up, I left a message for both, and I'm still waiting to hear back from them. I don't want to call him because I feel hurt and don't want to be reminded of everything that was said and done during our break up. Frankly, it hurts so bad that I don't even think I will be able to stay friends with him. So my question is: Does anyone have any ideas of how to cope when there's no one you can turn to for support? any suggestions you have on how I can help myself move on would be greatly appreciated :)
I just broke up with my boyfriend of nearly 2 years. We had a long distance relationship for about a year and things started getting sour a few months ago. I'm finding it hard to take the next step because our relationship had a special dynamic. We both know that we love and care for each other very much. We have even admitted to being each other soul mates and I had plans to move to his city after I graduate from college in May. But the distance got the best of us- jealousy, doubts about my relocation to his city, and the lack of normal interaction became difficult issues to handle and we broke up for good last Sunday. He was basically my best friend. Sure, I have other friends but no one who I feel could actually help me and give me support. Just think of this, I called two of my good girlfriends right after we broke up to help me cheer up, I left a message for both, and I'm still waiting to hear back from them. I don't want to call him because I feel hurt and don't want to be reminded of everything that was said and done during our break up. Frankly, it hurts so bad that I don't even think I will be able to stay friends with him. So my question is: Does anyone have any ideas of how to cope when there's no one you can turn to for support? any suggestions you have on how I can help myself move on would be greatly appreciated :)

Welcome to the board fin85,
First, I recommend you start jounal writing. Vent on paper, write UNSENT letters to the 'friends' you are waiting to hear back from.
I'm truly sorry you have no one to turn to with this...
it's so good that these boards exist and that people actually know what they're talking about here.
It wouldn't be me though... I'm kind of in the same situation - my post was about my bf of just over a year and also LDR. But the distance didn't matter. Other things got in the way.
I'm just replying because I feel kind of like you do - hurt, and that he was my best friend.
I just wish the best for you and good luck to both of us. <3
Hey girls -
I just wanted to let you know that I'm in a similar situation. I was in a LDR for a year with a guy, and I actually took the leap and moved here so we could see what it was like to have a real relationship. It was great (or so I thought) for a year ... and then out of the blue (to me) he ended it. I really think we were so excited when I got here that we spent too much time together and not enough time apart and that either burnt him out or it was too much commitment too fast. Either way, I'm here now dealing with it alone with my family and friends over 1000 miles away. :( It stinks to go through alone and its definitely harder. You will meet some great people here though that will offer good advice and offer lots of support. Read some of Sandra's posts under resources. I've printed them out and carry them with me to help me through weak moments. And then as fast as I can get to a computer I either come here and post my thoughts or help someone else with theirs and I end up feeling at least a little better.
Hang in there, I'm with ya ... going on month 3 of healing alone here
Lisa