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don't do what i did
| Tue, 01-30-2007 - 2:28pm |
What ever you do,please,please do not "check" on your Ex.I thought i was strong enough after 3 weeks of NC,And i bit me in the you know what.I found out he is on a dating website,it about crushed me.He can go on & here i am having a "pity party" well no more! I am so sick of feeling like this!arg! Thanks for reading this.

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This Sunday was rough because I too found out that my bf created a Facebook profile. It sent me spinning and now I'm still trying to recover. And I always thought he was so different from all the other guys out there - turns out he's just another average Joe. It hurts SO much.
We're all in this together - shared experience.
I love how women can come together for comfort and support - even as total strangers.
Thank you so much!
WOW.. That sounds just like me. Always thought he was never into that myspace stuff but like you said it hurts so much to find out after 8 yrs that all along what you thought was wrong and that he is like the rest.
It really sucks and hurts so much. I havent looked at it for about a week and hope i will never look again. They are so childish it makes me sick to my stomach. We are in this together. Trust me i know how much it sucks and still have thoughts that i cant get through this..
Ladies, ladies.....
Let's not lump all men together that way.
Just b/c your exes are on dating sites and myspace, etc., does not mean they've moved on. I mean, of course, all of us dumpees need to assume they've moved in order to move on ourselves, but dating doesn't necessarily mean 'moved on'. Within a week of being dumped, I was on a dating site. I've been dating like mad for the past couple of months. But have I moved on??? NO.
I recently closed out my profile, canceled my last 3 dates, and told every person I was semi-involved with that I'm not ready to date. It doesn't help you move on. It just makes you feel even more lonely because no one is like the one you lost.
I'm not saying the dumpers aren't happily dating, necessarily, I'm just saying one person can't replace another.
I totally agree and would like to share Pinky's post from way back when:
Think of your relationship like a big house that has been demolished. What do you do next? You can't live in the house any more! So you decide to clear up the mess (emotion), brick by brick, it takes a bit of time, but you liked living in that big house so you guess it's worth the effort. Then there's a big hole in the ground that needs to be filled up again. You start this process by making new friends who are happy to help you rebuild your new big house, so it's bigger and better than it was before.
Your ex has decided that he's going to build on top of all the rubble (denial), he/she can't be bothered to take time out to clear up all the mess. So off he/she goes, building on top of the old house. He/She acknowledges that the structure is a little wobbly but he/she says that it will do for him right now.
The storm hits. Guess whose house is still standing?
Your house is built on a solid foundation. His/Her house is a big fake "paper house", yours a big strong stone structure. Now tell me who's going to have the better future? It's up to you to decide.
Carrie
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