Don't know how to feel

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Registered: 10-20-2006
Don't know how to feel
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Sat, 11-04-2006 - 5:07pm

My ex called me for the first time since a week after our breakup. He called at work and we don't have caller ID so I answered. No one ever calls me at work except my ex-husband. But it was him and he wanted to know if I knew how many people work at the factory my dad works in. He's a reporter and I know that he knew I wouldn't have a clue. So, part of me thinks he wanted an excuse to call. I had just broke NC yet again with a very stupid e-mail that I wish I hadn't sent. I had been doing really well but I completly crashed again. He responded to the e-mail telling me how sad he was that the love of a good woman was going to waste and that he knew that I would say that it didn't have to go to waste and he was still working on that. Whatever, I know he's with someone else! So I just feel weird. Part of me is still really sad and I still miss him and want him back. Part of me is also really confused by it all.

On top of that, I've met someone who seems really nice. I want to give him a chance, but I'm scared. Scared I'll like him, scared my ex will come back, scared I won't like anyone as much as my ex! I'm just scared of my life right now!

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Sun, 11-05-2006 - 12:37pm

It seems that you're not over your EX yet. You fear that he comes back...why? Accept that it's over and that he's got a woman now. His contact to your office may have been a desire to get his ego boosted..he knows you still love him. I'd ignore his e-mails, calls, text messages and such. His words and presence in your life are preventing you from moving on.

As for getting involved with another man, I wouldn't recommended. You're not emotionally healthy and can't give 100% to the relatiosnhip. That wouldn't be fair to him. In a few months you'll be breaking up with him.

Work on yourself first to become emotionally healthy, a strong woman. Get over your EX. Then you'll be prepared to date again.