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dont know wat to do
| Mon, 05-21-2007 - 3:58pm |
I was messing with guy for a year and out of nowhere he says he doesn’t wanna see me anymore and broke up in june 06. it was very hard for me to let go b/c I became very attached , and lost all type of contact with him. In October of 06 he calls me and work things out and gave it another shot by November we had broken up, now its been 8 months and ive seem him no more that 3 times by coincidence just b/c his best friend is my cousins boyfriend, so he saw me around my way on Friday and then on Saturday he calls me and we were talking and I say to him “that’s weird your calling me” ( since we had 8 months we hadn’t spoken only for my birthday and the 2 or 3 times we bumped into each other) and he says oh no I was just calling to congratulate u I heard r going to graduate next week and u have a great job with one of the countries top insurance company…. Then he goes oh imm gonna be in contact with you some maybe we can go to the movies sometime…so obviously he’s been asking around for me and what I have been up to, also my cousins boyfriend told me he had asked him if I had been with someone else like a month ago…. I still care for him and have feelings for him….but at the same time I don’t wanna get my hopes up…. Wat do u guys think is going on….

I think it's all bs. I think you need to come up to him and honestly tell him 'hey, i really care for you, a lot'. Give him an ultimatum...you want to be with me, great. you don't no problem but just ask him to clearly state what he wants. If you are happy with occasional sex and a call here and there when it starts itching him then we don't have a problem here. However, we know you want more. If he's not ready to offer you more and it doesn't seem like he is otherwise he would swoop you off your feet, call you, come by your house, keep calling etc. then you need to stop everything before you really get in love cause then the s*** will really hit the fan and then you'll really know what it is to be sad.
Hope I wan't too harsh. I think I'm trying to convince myelf to do the same as I have a similar problem but of course am not strong enough to cut myself of. eh...
You are a convenience to him. Someone who will wait around for him so he can use you. I know how much you hurt and how long it takes to get over someone you really loved, but you deserve better and should treat yourself as such. The story has already played out twice. How more times does it have to play before you get the message?
Be good to yourself and cut him off at least until you heal. Sometimes exes can be friends, but neither can be in love with the other for a true friendship.