Don't know what to do!?!!!
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Don't know what to do!?!!!
| Sat, 10-23-2004 - 1:05am |
Ahh, OK, so my boyfriend broke up with me on 4 days ago on AOL, in an instant message convo. I was stunned and angry and all sorts of stuff. He refused to talk to me in person, so i decided I had to write him a letter because I felt he needed to know how i feel. So I did, and it ended up being 5 pages. I want to give it to him so badly but I don't know if it's to soon, or what. Please give me some advice, also some advice on how to cope with this, we were together for 6 months and i just wish it wasn't over :(

i would not send him the letter....it was good that you wrote it...for yourself..but do not give him the satisfication of mailing it...if he could be so cold as to break up with you online i do not think he deserves the long letter....
make him wonder what you are doing by moving on and staying busy.....try to have no contact with him at all....that will help you heal faster...
rejection of any kind is hard but tell yourself that this is for the best...obviously he is a guy that could not be trusted so better to find out now than later...
good luck and try to stay busy with friends...and take care of yourself
hugs
Going back to what I was saying b4-I really think you shouldn't write a letter. He'll show other people-your not going to know what he'll do w/ it. Believe me I've done the whole "5 page letter thing." Plus if he isn't one bit upset w/ letting you go-don't you think your letter will be pathetic to him. Wait it out and I think you will know what is right to do. Everyone gets their heart broken-I know it sucks but think of it this way there are plenty of others guys that would like you! Oh, also keep in mind when someone breaks up w/ you-its always worse. It hurts your ego. I had a guy break up w/ me a long time ago. I was so devasted but now that I look back I didn't even like him. It just hurt that he didn't want to be w/ me. I wondered why? Well I hope I helped you out a little. I am having probs w/ my man and drinking. (as pathetic as it sounds) Whenever we fight he goes out and drinks. I broke up w/ him but he's begging me back. We dated over 3 yrs. so trust me I know it hurts. What helps is if you go out w/ friends and meet new people. Good luck w/ things-I hope everything works out for you. Remember everything happens for a reaon!