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Don't know what to do
| Thu, 03-23-2006 - 6:11pm |
I just don't know what to do anymore. My ex was awful to me, he said that he loved me and ended up just using me and dumping me when things got too inconvenient for him. Of course now he has a new girlfriend, even though she knows everything that he's done! Now all I can think of is how he gets to be a jerk and then go off and be happy with someone else while I'm just alone. I mean I'm trying to go out and I don't talk about him to other guys or anything and I try to be happy and flirty but no one cares. I don't know what I'm supposed to do, nothing makes me feel better, I just feel like his loser ex, while he's out living it up with his new girlfriend, even though he doesn't deserve it at all. I'm so frusterated, everything in my life is wrong and I can't seem to do anything to fix anything. I just want to scream at him and make him feel even a fraction of the pain that I have felt because of him. I feel like he's never going to feel bad about it, nothing that he did to me is ever going to matter and he's just going to get to live this happy live with his new gf and I'll just be pathetic forever.
Edited 3/23/2006 7:14 pm ET by katiedid0985
Edited 3/23/2006 7:14 pm ET by katiedid0985

hi katie
dont worry god is not sleeping! JUST REMEMBER WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND...CHILAX! OKAY
YOU ONLY FEEL THAT PAIN RIGHT NOW. BUT IF THE TIME COMES AND FINALLY FORGET ABOUT HIM. REMEMBER YOU JUST LAUGH ABOUT IT. TRUST ME...
GOOD LUCK
Well, just because he seems happy now doesn't mean he'll always be that way. What if that girlfriend dumps him or cheats on him? Screaming at him won't do anything but make you hoarse. It doesn't matter how you feel; the best revenge is appearing happy. If he knows you're wallowing in pain over him dumping you, then he wins. He'll just think of you as that pathetic ex who couldn't get over him. You have to give the appearance of someone who is going on just fine without him. Eventually, if you give that appearance, in time it will be true.
I know you won't believe this now but you will be happy again. Someday, when you're ready, someone will come along who will appreciate you and treat you the way you deserve to be treated. But you need to take time for yourself, to figure out who you are and what you want in a relationship. If you go into another relationship now, it will only be on the rebound and it won't be coming from a healthy place. Yes, it seems unfair that he's not alone but you can't know for sure that he's truly happy. Someone like that may never be happy -- he'll just go from relationship to relationship. Or maybe this is the one girl he will be happy with. If so, that means you weren't the one for him. But there is someone out there whom you will be the one for and right now he's probably in a relationship with someone he isn't 100% into. When you're ready and he's ready, you'll find each other and you'll be SO grateful it didn't work out with this guy.
Steph
http://www.myspace.com/stephfaris