dont know what to do... help....

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Registered: 11-05-2006
dont know what to do... help....
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Sun, 11-05-2006 - 11:40pm
Well heres the story... I was dating this guy all summer and our relationship was perfect. We were totaly in love. He was the guy that my parents loved, my friends and his friends were all dating so we could all hang out together and have a blast!! It was great! Until like mid September and then I noticed as things with us progressed he started to keep to his self and I could tell something was bothering him, and hes not the type of guy to really express his emotions. But about 2 weeks before we broke up he went into the feild (hes a marine... I know but hes definatly not the typical marine trust me) and then when he came back I asked him what was bothering him. When i finnaly got to talk to him he told me he didnt want to talk about it. So I finnally said flat out "do you want to be with me or not?" at first I got the I donk know answer but then he told me that he was totaly stressed out because he was on the verge of getting kicked out of his platuin because because of all the stress he got mad and told a squad leader that he couldnt handel the Marine corps so he is having to prove his self to stay in which if any one knows that is a great amount of stress... so therefore he told me that he just couldnt andle this and a relatioship right now... but he loved me and he wanted us to be together but if he tried to stay with me throug this then it would be unfair to me because all his time would go to proving himself.... now im the type of girl that was like ok everything he told me was bull crap... but then I talked to his best friend who is like my brother and he told me that he was not bull crapping that he still really cares about me and he hates thar we cant be together right now... He is always asking his friend to look out for me and make sure I dont do anything stupid... and I havrnt tslked to him since we broke up and part of that is because about a week after this happened he left for Cali for training for one month and his best firend told me the other part was because he know if he talks to me Im going to want a more detail explanation and hes not ready to tell me that yet. His bestfriend tells me that its not over for good and that i should try to hold on bu i dont know what to do... I think i should move one but i keep wondering what i could be missing if he comes back... some one help please!!!!
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Mon, 11-06-2006 - 12:57am

Hi,

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Mon, 11-06-2006 - 6:05pm
I couldn't agree more with that! I am still recovering from my break up of about two months from a Marine myself, and though we both wanted it to work out, ultimately, it was SO hard with all the extra crap that goes along with dating someone in the military, not to mention being long distance. We had everything working against us, and honestly, if we had lasted, it would have been a miracle. I am hoping that all the extra forces caused this relationship to end, and it didn't have to do with me. But I guess I will never know and you probably won't either. I'm sorry you are going through this. I know how hard it is, with him so far away, and you not knowing what he is doing after you used to talk all the time.
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Tue, 11-07-2006 - 12:16am
Hey thanks for the reply... but now there a little add extra into this my problem... a mutual friend of ours who is their navy coreman invited me to go to the Military ball with him... and since i really wanted to go and had planed on going before me and my ex broke i told him yes... I think it will be fun and me and this gy are good friends... but i know I will see my ex there because he has to attend.. Im scared that when i see him (no to mention him in his uniform, which i am a sucker for men in uniform) I am just going to melt... This new guy on the other hand likes me but knows the situation withmy ex and knows that i am not over him... but there could be potential with us in the future when I am over my ex but i just dont want to cause problems with to friends especially since here job is to protect on another... now im worried about this...am i doing the wrong thing by still going to the ball?