Dont know what to think - HELP!!
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| Wed, 04-05-2006 - 3:27pm |
Ive been here tons of times about my recent ex and all the advice Ive gotten has made stronger..thank you guys!!
Something happened and I do need advice.
I am getting heart surgery in 2 weeks and Im dealing with a lot of scary and hurt feelings since he broke up with me only 3 weeks ago. I was so hurt that I told him (Thanks to Sheri :) that unless he wants to commit 110% to me.. to please not communicate with me.
I dont think he gets it and keeps trying to start conversations with me via email..calls me to see how im doing and if I need anything.. which is sweet, but I dont want to confuse LOVE with COMPASSION.. two VERY different things, especially since I love this man soo much, I dont think I could take knowing that he is doing it out of pity or guilt or even platonic feelings rather than love.
Anyway..
He emails me this this morning at 2am..
"hey, i called you. i want to see you soon...i know its selfish. but its something i'd really like."
What do I say to that??? Do I email him back? Do I let him see me even though I really do want to see him? Do I tell him to take a flying leap off a bridge? Im confused to the meaning behind this and dont want to do something that I will regret
Help and Advice please?!??!
Missy

I'm sorry that he's doing this to you at such a stressful time for you. At least he recognizes that he's being selfish, that's *something*, I guess!
My advice would be to send him an email reiterating your request that he not contact you and asking for his understanding and cooperation at this difficult time in your life. Then after you send it, BLOCK him from emailing you (and block any other modes of contact that you need to or can--calls, IMs, texts).
I hope you have family and friends to support you in this difficult time? And of course we are here for you...keep us posted on your surgery and recovery!
Sheri
I definitely agree with Sheri. I know that I can analyze things too much, but when I read line in his email where he states *I know I'm being selfish*, I read it as he is making it very clear to you that he wants to see you, but he doesn't want to get back with you, hence he's being selfish. I could be wrong though.
I wish you the very best with your surgery and please try to concentrate on yourself and your health at this time!!