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don't know where to go from here
| Sun, 12-12-2004 - 1:17am |
I have been married for 3 years now and I have a 1 year old daughter. I love my husband so much, he means everything to me. I put him before my own family.An now things are falling apart. My husband and I have been talking and we have decided to go our separate ways. We have our problems like most couples. The main was is his job. He has admited to being married to his job and that his job is so important. He says we would be nothing without his job. We moved two years ago to another state away from all our family and friends. So theres not really anybody here I can talk to. I don't know where to go from here. I don't want to separate. He made me quit two jobs I got recently because he wanted me to stay home with our daughter. He claims he still wants to help me out I have a hard time beliving it because we separated last year for 4 months and I moved back in with my family. I found out later when we got back together that he was with someone else and that she lived in our apt while I was a way but he told her to leave because he loved me and wanted to work on our marriage. The whole time I was back with my family he only sent money to his daughter once. Now he wants me to stay in the same state so we can share custody of our daughter. Won't it just hurt me if I stayed. I don't have any money to just move out. I wanted to go back to school but he doesn't want to help me pay for it. Lately he can either be really nice or he can be really mean. He won't give his daughter up with out a fight and legally I cant take her out of the state with out permission from both parents. What should I do? I don't drive so its not easy to go to work and take the baby to daycare. Where 1/2 my check goes to child care. I want to leave but I still love him I always will. No one knows me more. I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm confused any help will be appreciated.
thanks in advance
AP
thanks in advance
AP
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| Mon, 12-13-2004 - 11:02pm |
Have you told your husband you want to work things out? Have tried to work it out? If you can't work things out, then seperating is the only choice. I tthink you're going to be hurting no matter where you live and if you want to live in the state and share custody then do it but if you want to leave then get a lawyer and do what you need to get your baby and do what you need to. Good luck and keep us posted!!

