dont take those love tests

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-10-2004
dont take those love tests
2
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 6:15am
Don't take those relationship..is he marriage material quizzes..I just took one and it made me feel like breaking down. My ex passed 80% of the questions, so now I feel like I had something so good go.

I hate this. Its in the middle of the night. This is the worst time for me. I miss my ex and all I keep on thinking of is how perfect me and him were. I can't imagine why he would want to break up and I just beat myself up for it. I should've been a better girlfriend. Then again I know I did the best I can. I just hate it how I have to miss him so much. I want to call him but I can't. He was a good guy, but yes, he had a temper that I cannot control and that scared me.

I don't understand how he can be so strong about this. WHy do certain guys mind rule their heart? I just don't understand how someone could just walk away from someone they love. WHy are women always the one missing and crying over the broken relationship? I just don't understand this feeling of abandonment and hopeless regrets.

I dont want to picture him with someone else. It kills me. I'll stop before I go crazy. Just dont take those love tests when you're not with the guy. Now I have to sleep thinking about him and I'll probably dream of him and wake up crying. Damnit.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-19-2004
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 6:26am
HI,

I know its really crap and hard, Im now 3 weeks without contact (only me sending him email and he not responding) and it doesnt feel ...nice...but it does get a little better and easier! Thats what everyone says...I know...just keep on living! I know what you are saying with why do they think with their mind and not listen to their heart, I have the same with my ex, I think its so stupid of them to give up a nice girl that loves them so much, but although even I still have hopes and dreams about us (theres nothing wrong with that!)it is their stupidity and therefor their loss and hopefully one day we will walk in to this person that loves us completely, problemfree, for who we are and just keep living till that day arrives! Because I'm sure it will..

Samantha

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-10-2004
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 6:42am
hey samantha,

thanks. It is just so hard. Just a piece of advice for you too, don't email or contact him in any way. I know its hard when you're having a moment of weakness. I have only been broken up with mine two weeks and I had to see him a few days ago to get my things....I thought I had control in the beginning and in the end, I was the one asking him why not work it out. I know it is not about pride and ego, but it makes you feel less of a person when one person is apparently rejecting you. He was always there for me before and I was the one who didn't want the relationship, but the moment he came to me, I took him back. Men are much stronger than that. When they are done, they are done. It taked them longer to miss you too..some even a year or so, and hopefully by then, we realized that we deserve so much better. Seriously though, Men never know what they have until they lose them..completely.

Jenni